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Podcast of the Day

Why We Fall in Love with a False Self

June 14, 2011

Host Armand DiMele Guests Kenny Baron, Lauren Sykes, Linda Vanella, Sherri Siegel

What if people don’t fall in love with who you really are, but with the polished self you perform? Armand DiMele argues that revealing your true self often drives partners away, and that therapy’s push for authenticity can backfire. A caller’s story of kibbutz bullying, suicide, and bulimia recovery gives the theory raw, unexpected weight.

Wisdom of the Week

The Power of Kindness

Featured episode while curated clips are being prepared.

Kindness is framed not as a soft sentiment but as evolutionary glue and a cornerstone of sanity. Armand DiMele maps the virtues of a well-balanced person and argues that fear, envy, greed, and jealousy, the classic deadly sins, are precisely what block us from genuine, give-without-getting kindness.

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About The Positive Mind Center

In the heart of New York City, helping people for over 40 years.

Located on 57th Street, The Positive Mind Center delivers comprehensive mental health counseling and psychotherapy. Founded by Armand DiMele over 40 years ago.

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