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Phobias and Secondary Gain

March 20, 2013

Host Armand DiMele

Phobias are never just about the feared object. Armand DiMele argues that every phobia carries a hidden secondary gain, an unconscious payoff such as withdrawal from adult responsibility, and that understanding this dynamic is the real key to treatment. The episode covers agoraphobia, paranoia, and a catalogue of named phobias.

Wisdom of the Week

The Changing Face of Romantic Partnership with Dr. Annalisa Erba

Featured episode while curated clips are being prepared.

Romantic partnership has never been more varied or more confusing. Clinical psychologist Dr. Annalisa Erba traces love and marriage from ancient Greece through Christianity to today, while Armand DiMele argues that real partnership requires knowing yourself first and that staying single is often the wiser choice.

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Located on 57th Street, The Positive Mind Center delivers comprehensive mental health counseling and psychotherapy. Founded by Armand DiMele over 40 years ago.

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