What happens when the pressures of life crack the composed self wide open? Armand DiMele examines how rage, passive aggression, and emotional numbness ripple outward and damage others, while callers share raw stories of unloving mothers, inherited trauma, and the long work of grieving what was never given.
Hatred is not a demon to be hidden but a feeling to be explored honestly. Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, trace hatred from childhood helplessness through jealousy, control, and vengeance, with a moving call from a man who lost his brother on 9/11 and has since been cut off from his nephews and nieces.
Why do otherwise controlled people suddenly explode? Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, trace the roots of losing control across rage, sexuality, eating, and grief, arguing that the narcissistic wound is the most reliable trigger, and that suppression itself sets the stage for the blowup.
When love is withdrawn, some people don’t just grieve, they rage. Armand DiMele and Stephanie D’Ambra, LCSW examine why lost love can trigger obsessive calling, stalking, and even violence, tracing the reaction to a primitive wound response and asking whether abandonment rage is a kind of temporary insanity.
Hatred is not anger but a consuming state of being, and most people carry far more of it than they admit. Armand replays a remastered lecture to distinguish hatred from anger, trace its origins in childhood suppression, and argue that the desperate human search for love is really an attempt to escape inner hatred.
Explosive anger affects far more people than assumed, with some studies finding it in over 10 percent of the population. Armand DiMele and colleagues Christine Ulrich and Kent Robinshaw examine the biology of rage, the passive-aggressive partners who enable it, why victims stay, and how therapy and medication can help.
What happens to people who were never held as babies? Jean Liedloff, author of “The Continuum Concept,” argues that the unmet need for physical contact in infancy drives lifelong restlessness, rage, and self-rejection. Armand and callers trace the thread from Columbine to loneliness to addiction.
Armand DiMele maps out what to do when someone you care about lashes out unfairly. Rather than fighting back, he argues for showing genuine hurt, explaining why tears disarm anger more effectively than counter-attack, and why most rage burns itself out in about 22 minutes if you stop feeding it.
