What does a narcissist actually look like up close, and can you change the dynamic without leaving? Wendy Behary, LCSW, Author of “Disarming the Narcissist,” joins Armand to map the traits (entitlement, demeaning behavior, emotional detachment) and offer real strategies for partners who feel invisible.
What happens when the pressures of life crack the composed self wide open? Armand DiMele examines how rage, passive aggression, and emotional numbness ripple outward and damage others, while callers share raw stories of unloving mothers, inherited trauma, and the long work of grieving what was never given.
Rejection is not a feeling, it is a perception, and that distinction changes everything. Armand DiMele argues that “feeling rejected” is a cover story for deeper truths about loneliness, narcissism, and the emotional habits laid down in childhood. People who overreact to rejection are often those least at peace with themselves.
Overprotective parents are raising psychologically fragile children, and college counseling centers are overwhelmed with the fallout. Hara Estroff Marano, Author and Psychology Today Editor, joins Armand DiMele to argue that well-meaning parents who bubble-wrap their kids’ lives are producing adults who can’t tolerate failure, rejection, or uncertainty.
Why do people sabotage peace and quiet? Armand DiMele argues that neurotic behavior, from triangulation to volatile relationships, is not weakness but a disguised grab for power. Recognizing that hidden payoff, he suggests, is the first step toward finally choosing the high road.
What is the real opposite of dependency? Armand DiMele argues it is autonomy, not independence, then unpacks the dependent personality with Linda Vanella, LCSW-R. The episode covers how dependency forms, how it fuels serial relationships and narcissistic dynamics, and why genuine autonomy must be a conscious choice rather than a reaction to fear.
Vainglory is subtler than plain boasting: the vainglorious person wraps genuine insight in passing self-flattery, steering every story back to their own greatness. Armand DiMele unpacks the pattern, argues it masks deep smallness, and makes the case for genuine humility as the rarer and more admirable quality.
Why are so many young adults delaying marriage, careers, and commitment well into their 20s and beyond? Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, dig into shifting milestones, the rise of the “hipster” lifestyle, political disillusionment, and whether prolonged adolescence reflects freedom, avoidance, or something in between.
High self-esteem is not the simple good we’ve been told it is. Armand DiMele and co-host Roberta examine research showing that abusers and violent criminals often score high on self-esteem scales, why therapists’ reliance on supportive praise backfires, and what honest self-knowledge offers instead.
Healthy self-love and pathological narcissism are not the same thing. Armand and psychiatrist Dr. Frank Yeoman trace the spectrum from perfectionistic collapse (illustrated by the poem “Richard Corey”) to envy, aggression, and celebrity worship, arguing that most narcissistic suffering stems from an inability to feel genuinely good about oneself.
