Keyword: perfectionism

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Dutiful Personalities and the Enneagram with Don Riso and Russ Hudson April 3, 2013

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Don Riso, Russ Hudson
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Identity & The Self

Don Riso and Russ Hudson, authors of “The Wisdom of the Enneagram,” join Armand DiMele to map the three “dutiful” Enneagram types: the perfectionistic One, the people-pleasing Two, and the anxiety-driven Six. The conversation traces how duty hardens into resentment, hidden depression, and self-imposed slavery to an inner judge.

The Mask We Wear in Public August 1, 2012

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Lisa Arnone
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Identity & The Self

Are the coping styles we develop in childhood defenses or simply who we are? Armand DiMele and Lisa Arnone, LCSW explore whether an authentic self actually exists beneath our social masks, or whether stripping away our defenses leaves nothing behind. Callers and the Enneagram illuminate the argument.

When the Mind Stops Moving with Dr. Michael Grove July 21, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Michael Grove, Lauren Sykes, Sherri Siegel
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Why do people freeze mentally and physically, and how do you break that spell? Dr. Sherry Siegel, M.D. hosts alongside Dr. Michael Grove, who outlines ten categories of psychological paralysis including perfectionism, frustration freeze, and putting the cart before the horse. Callers share vivid personal examples, from job-search overwhelm to humiliation-induced shock.

The Fear of Losing Control September 22, 2009

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Anxiety & Fear, Personal Growth & Change

Control shapes us from toilet training to adulthood, but the drive to master ourselves and others carries a steep cost. Armand DiMele traces the psychology of control through panic attacks, obsessive perfectionism, and bad habits, arguing that naming fear openly does more good than white-knuckling it.

The Compulsion to Organize April 2, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Sherri Siegel
Category: Anxiety & Fear, The Mind & Neuroscience

Why do scattered people suddenly need to line up the ducks? Armand DiMele and guest Dr. Sherry Siegel, M.D. trace the spectrum from everyday tidying impulses to obsessive-compulsive disorder, examining the biology of doubt, the genetics of compulsive behavior, and why nightmares may all be, at root, about organizing chaos.

The Perfectionist Personality Under Stress November 13, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Anxiety & Fear, Identity & The Self

Rigid, perfectionistic people crack hardest when life goes wrong, and Armand DiMele explains why. He distinguishes OCD from obsessive-compulsive personality disorder, showing how the desperate need to be right drives indecision, relationship conflict, explosive anger, and hoarding, and how admitting fallibility is the way out.

The Fear Behind Procrastination with Gloria Aronson October 14, 2008

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Gloria Aronson
Category: Anxiety & Fear, Personal Growth & Change

Fear, not laziness, drives chronic procrastination. Armand DiMele talks with Gloria Aronson, author of “Procrastination Nation,” about the false beliefs keeping people stuck, from fear of failure and success to childhood shame, and how to trace avoidance back to its earliest roots.

A Nation of Wimps with Hara Estroff Marano June 11, 2008

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Hara Estroff Marano
Category: Family & Parenting, Personal Growth & Change

Overprotective parenting is producing psychologically fragile young adults, argues Hara Estroff Marano, Author and Psychology Today Editor. Armand DiMele and Marano dig into college mental health data, the neuroscience of play, the danger of misplaced praise, and why letting kids fail early is the kindest thing a parent can do.

Perfectionism as Hidden Aggression December 4, 2007

Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Perfectionism is not a virtue but a disguised form of anger. Armand DiMele traces how indirect social aggression in childhood breeds neurotic perfectionism in adults, connects it to eating disorders and hoarding, and urges listeners to loosen their grip, especially during the holidays.

The Flow State in Jazz with Eddie Daniels November 13, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Eddie Daniels, Kent Robertshaw, Mirabai
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Legendary jazz clarinetist Eddie Daniels joins Armand DiMele and Dr. Kent Robertshaw, MD, Psychiatrist to explore what happens inside a musician at the moment of performance: the surrender of ego, the trust that technique will emerge, and the difference between doing and flowing. Weaves in reflections on anger, money, and how life in New Mexico changed Daniels.