Betrayal almost always involves a choice by the betrayed person, Armand DiMele argues, and the deepest wound is the one we inflict on ourselves by ignoring warning signs. With co-host Giullian Gioiello, Armand traces betrayal from Judas to war to infidelity, and takes calls from listeners working through deception in their own lives.
Self-deception is not just a psychological problem but a physical one. Deborah King, author of “Truth Heals,” shares how the lies we tell ourselves about relationships, work, and childhood wounds drain our energy and manifest as illness, drawing on her own journey through an eating disorder, bipolar disorder, cancer, and addiction. Armand DiMele and Dr. Jeremy Spiegel, Psychiatrist, join the conversation.
We are all method actors in stories we invented, and the stories we tell others are shaped as much by what listeners want to hear as by what we want to say. Armand DiMele and Lisa Arnone, LCSW explore how anxiety, denial, and the compulsive need to “fix” others often trace back to unfinished business from childhood.
Secrets shape every layer of life, from the truths we hide from ourselves to the ones buried inside families for generations. Armand DiMele examines why some secrets protect and others destroy, when revealing them heals, and when it causes further harm. Callers share their own long-held burdens.
Why do we want to be lied to? Armand DiMele uses the Bernie Madoff scandal as a jumping-off point to argue that humans are wired for deception, both giving and receiving it. Drawing on primate research and brain science, he explores the fine line between healthy trust and paranoid suspicion.
Denial is the foundation of addiction, the first response to death, and the reason heart attacks go untreated. Armand DiMele breaks down six distinct forms, from simple denial of fact to the subtler denial of cycle and denial of denial, and explains how facing reality, even in someone else’s dying moments, can be the greatest gift we offer.
Excuses block growth by turning avoidance into belief. Armand DiMele traces the impulse to dodge responsibility from the Garden of Eden to the modern workplace, arguing that owning your mistakes builds confidence and integrity far more than clever deflection ever could. Callers explore criticism, fear, and defensiveness in real time.
We know what makes a good life, so why don’t we do it? Armand DiMele walks through the core patterns of self-defeating behavior, from denial and counterfactual thinking to procrastination and perfectionism, drawing on research by psychologist Dan Newhart to explain how self-sabotage builds gradually, often invisibly.
We all carry invisible psychological shields, shaped in childhood, that distort how we see ourselves and others. Armand uses the Mr. Bean outhouse gag as a running metaphor for these blind spots, then takes calls from listeners who recognize their own, from chronic tension to conflict avoidance to a lifelong pattern of addiction.
Denial is not weakness but an evolved survival tool, and Armand DiMele breaks down its many forms: denial of fact, responsibility, impact, awareness, and cycle. He connects this mechanism to addiction, overeating, abusive relationships, and even the subprime mortgage collapse, then works through caller stories to show how denial operates from the inside.
