Smell is the sense most deeply wired to long-term memory, and Armand DiMele builds a rich hour around that fact. Callers share scents tied to powerlessness, lost mothers, freedom, and home, revealing how a single whiff can collapse decades in an instant.
New Year’s Eve amplifies the ache of who is or isn’t in your life. Armand DiMele, joined by co-hosts Giullian Gioiello and Ben Starr, examines a Yale study showing people often date out of guilt rather than desire, then unpacks how childhood obligations to a parent or grandparent quietly shape adult romantic choices.
Why are calm people drawn to chaotic partners and vice versa? Armand DiMele introduces a framework dividing people into “medicated” (low-energy, safety-seeking) and “stimulated” (high-energy, adversity-driven) types, arguing that partners unconsciously seek their opposite to feel complete. Co-hosts Ben Starr and Giullian Gioiello join the discussion, along with callers navigating chronic pain, estrangement, and long-term relationships losing their spark.
What do we actually want people to see when they first meet us? Armand DiMele, co-hosts Giullian Gioiello and Ben Starr, and three studio guests probe the gap between the image we project and the neediness, sensuality, and childlike joy we keep hidden until we feel truly safe.
Female orgasm, concealed ovulation, and the biology of attraction get a lively treatment as Armand DiMele revisits recorded programs made with co-presenter Roberta Ati. Drawing on evolutionary biology and anthropology, they walk through three competing theories of why human females experience orgasm and how women hiding estrus may have saved the species.
Why do we keep choosing the same partners and recreating the same dynamics? Armand DiMele argues that relationship problems are never really about the other person but about unexamined childhood wounds. With co-therapist Lisa Arnone, LCSW, he traces how early needs for attractiveness, desirability, and parental attention shape adult love patterns.
Love, Armand argues, is what keeps us moving through life, and sex is what keeps love alive. With Linda Vanella, LCSW-R and Michael Jessen, Armand explores why the very traits that draw us to a partner eventually become their most irritating qualities, and what it takes to push through that reversal into a deeper connection.
Armand DiMele lays out his own framework for the eight phases romantic love passes through, from the chemistry-driven honeymoon to the seven-year itch, selective immobility, and beyond. Co-host Stephanie joins the discussion, and Helen Fisher’s work on love and brain chemistry gets a nod along the way.
What if people don’t fall in love with who you really are, but with the polished self you perform? Armand DiMele argues that revealing your true self often drives partners away, and that therapy’s push for authenticity can backfire. A caller’s story of kibbutz bullying, suicide, and bulimia recovery gives the theory raw, unexpected weight.
Why do we bond so powerfully with other people? Armand DiMele walks through the neuroscience of love, from lust and adrenaline to dopamine, oxytocin, and vasopressin, then argues that the chemistry of bonding extends beyond couples to explain PMS, depression, ADD, and chronic illness as shared phenomena of the bonded pair.
