What does a narcissist actually look like up close, and can you change the dynamic without leaving? Wendy Behary, LCSW, Author of “Disarming the Narcissist,” joins Armand to map the traits (entitlement, demeaning behavior, emotional detachment) and offer real strategies for partners who feel invisible.
True independence is a myth, Armand argues on the Fourth of July: the body runs on interdependence, and so do we. He draws on Buddhist philosophy, fireworks neuroscience, and callers sharing family wounds to make the case that admitting need is not weakness but biological reality.
Caring for a seriously ill spouse strips away plans, freedom, and identity. Dr. Diana Denholm, MD, author of “The Caregiving Wife’s Handbook,” joins Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, to examine how caregivers manage resentment and burnout, and what the person being cared for can do to preserve their partner’s dignity and wellbeing.
Power is largely an illusion, and fighting that truth is a recipe for depression, rigidity, and exhaustion. Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, trace powerlessness from its biological roots through addiction, codependency, grief, and disability, arguing that accepting what we cannot control is itself a form of strength.
Tolerance is not just a virtue but a spectrum with a dark side. Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, examine where healthy acceptance ends and harmful condoning begins, covering religious intolerance, parenting, couples, and the fine line between endurance and enabling abuse.
Triangulation is both a normal developmental step and a source of lasting dysfunction. Armand DiMele traces how children get pulled into taking sides between parents, how gossip and confiding in friends repeat the same pattern, and why splitting the world into all-good and all-bad leaves people stuck. Callers share their own family triangle experiences.
Every relationship requires a balance between individual identity and couplehood. Armand DiMele argues that losing the “me” inside the “we” drives compulsive behaviors from internet pornography to over-exercising, and that preserving a private self is not a threat to love but its foundation.
Can you stay well when someone you love is suffering? Armand DiMele argues that emotional contagion between bonded people is not weakness but chemistry, and that pretending otherwise may be the real pathology. Callers bring raw stories of toxic supervisors, estranged children, and the cost of staying present.
Why do some people feel responsible for everyone else’s happiness? Armand DiMele, joined by co-host Giullian Gioiello and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, unpacks the compulsion to please others, the anger it breeds when unreciprocated, and the guilt that follows when we feel we’ve let someone down.
What does it actually mean to live with a narcissist, and why do so many people keep choosing them? Armand DiMele and Wendy Behary, LCSW, Author of “Disarming the Narcissist,” map the traits, from entitlement and demeaning sarcasm to emotional detachment, and explore why partners often play a willing role in the dynamic.
