Keyword: desire

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Medicated and Stimulated Types in Relationships December 16, 2014

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Ben Starr, Giullian Gioiello
Category: Identity & The Self, Love & Romantic Relationships

Why are calm people drawn to chaotic partners and vice versa? Armand DiMele introduces a framework dividing people into “medicated” (low-energy, safety-seeking) and “stimulated” (high-energy, adversity-driven) types, arguing that partners unconsciously seek their opposite to feel complete. Co-hosts Ben Starr and Giullian Gioiello join the discussion, along with callers navigating chronic pain, estrangement, and long-term relationships losing their spark.

The Self We Show the World December 1, 2014

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Ben Starr, Dr. Annalisa Erba, Elizabeth Gould, Giullian Gioiello, Rina
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Identity & The Self

What do we actually want people to see when they first meet us? Armand DiMele, co-hosts Giullian Gioiello and Ben Starr, and three studio guests probe the gap between the image we project and the neediness, sensuality, and childlike joy we keep hidden until we feel truly safe.

The Id the Ego and Falling in Love August 21, 2012

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Lisa Arnone
Category: Identity & The Self, Love & Romantic Relationships

Why do people fall in love, and why do they stop? Armand DiMele, joined in the studio by Lisa Arnone, LCSW, uses Freud’s id and ego to explain romantic longing as an inner drive, exploring how unmet needs pull us toward love and how self-sufficiency can quiet that pull entirely.

Why We Search for Mother and Father in Sex March 14, 2012

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Identity & The Self, Sexuality & Desire

Armand DiMele argues that compulsive sexual behavior in both men and women is really a search for a missing parent: women seeking the nurturing of an absent mother, men seeking the masculine affirmation of an absent father. Callers push back, share personal stories, and probe the theory’s limits.

Freedom from Definitions of Love January 27, 2011

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Love & Romantic Relationships

No therapist can hand you the right formula for love, and Armand argues that freedom from definitions is the real gift. Neurotic love, dishonest love, unconventional love can all work. What matters is noticing your own sensations, from longing to satisfaction, and trusting what fits you.

The Chemistry of Falling in Love September 2, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Love & Romantic Relationships, The Mind & Neuroscience

Why do we bond so powerfully with other people? Armand DiMele walks through the neuroscience of love, from lust and adrenaline to dopamine, oxytocin, and vasopressin, then argues that the chemistry of bonding extends beyond couples to explain PMS, depression, ADD, and chronic illness as shared phenomena of the bonded pair.

The Power of Yearning August 26, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Lauren Sykes
Category: Depression & Mood, Emotions & Inner Life

Yearning is not a weakness but a biological imperative, as fundamental as photosynthesis. Armand DiMele explores how suppressed yearning shapes depression, stunted sexuality, and lopsided love, and why grief research now identifies yearning, not denial, as the defining feature of loss.

What Drives Us June 23, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Lauren Sykes, Sherri Siegel
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, The Mind & Neuroscience

What separates the person who pursues degree after degree from one who is content to sit still? Armand DiMele and Dr. Sherry Siegel, M.D. trace motivation from hypothalamic hormones like ghrelin and leptin to subconscious drives rooted in early experience, drawing on theorists Steven Reiss and Daniel Pink along the way.

Greed and Insatiability April 27, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Society, Culture & Current Events

Why can’t we ever have enough? Armand DiMele traces greed from Wall Street scandals to everyday wanting, arguing that insatiability is driven by competition, relative status, and the brain chemistry of the hunt rather than the reward. Callers share their own struggles with desire, money, and contentment.

Compassionate Capitalism with Carmen Roberts April 21, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Carmen Roberts, Sherri Siegel
Category: Meaning, Spirituality & Philosophy, Society, Culture & Current Events

Can a Buddhist mindset survive inside a financial newsroom? Former Bloomberg News anchor Carmen Roberts joins Armand DiMele and Dr. Sherry Siegel, M.D. to explore how insatiable desire drives both personal unhappiness and Wall Street excess, and how compassion and higher consciousness can redirect that drive.