What does a narcissist actually look like up close, and can you change the dynamic without leaving? Wendy Behary, LCSW, Author of “Disarming the Narcissist,” joins Armand to map the traits (entitlement, demeaning behavior, emotional detachment) and offer real strategies for partners who feel invisible.
Psychologist Dr. Noel Nelson, author of ‘Dangerous Relationships,’ walks Armand through seven early warning signs of abusive relationships, from whirlwind romance to possessiveness to boundary violations. The conversation covers why controlling behavior, not pathology or alcohol, is the clearest predictor of domestic violence.
Don Riso and Russ Hudson join Armand DiMele to break down the three assertive Enneagram types: the blunt, life-force-driven Challenger, the endlessly striving Achiever, and the expansive Enthusiast. The conversation explores why assertive energy triggers defensive reactions, how it roots in fear and emptiness, and how it can be channeled into genuine leadership.
Armand DiMele and co-host Lisa work through 25 warning signs of a toxic relationship, from verbal put-downs and jealous isolation to emotional dependency and manipulation. A story about a mentor’s muscle-pressure test frames how people differ in their tolerance for pain, and why some stay far too long.
Tolerance is not just a virtue but a spectrum with a dark side. Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, examine where healthy acceptance ends and harmful condoning begins, covering religious intolerance, parenting, couples, and the fine line between endurance and enabling abuse.
Triangulation is both a normal developmental step and a source of lasting dysfunction. Armand DiMele traces how children get pulled into taking sides between parents, how gossip and confiding in friends repeat the same pattern, and why splitting the world into all-good and all-bad leaves people stuck. Callers share their own family triangle experiences.
When devotion to a sick partner becomes all-consuming, caregivers lose themselves. Armand DiMele and co-host Dr. Sherry Siegel, M.D. speak with David Travland and Rhonda Travland, authors of “The Tough and Tender Caregiver,” who each survived years of spousal caregiving and argue that self-care is not selfishness but survival.
Why do the same traps keep springing? Armand DiMele works through the nature-versus-nurture debate, chromosome alleles, and childhood nurturance to explain why personality patterns persist, then takes calls to show listeners how their judgments of others reveal their own wounds and fears.
Every relationship requires a balance between individual identity and couplehood. Armand DiMele argues that losing the “me” inside the “we” drives compulsive behaviors from internet pornography to over-exercising, and that preserving a private self is not a threat to love but its foundation.
Can you stay well when someone you love is suffering? Armand DiMele argues that emotional contagion between bonded people is not weakness but chemistry, and that pretending otherwise may be the real pathology. Callers bring raw stories of toxic supervisors, estranged children, and the cost of staying present.
