Keyword: anger

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Finding Power in Your Dysfunction April 3, 2012

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Joanna, John Valerio, Lisa Arnone
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Every behavior we label dysfunctional serves a hidden purpose. Armand DiMele argues that depression, addiction, paranoia, and even passivity are forms of power, and that befriending these parts of ourselves rather than fighting them is what actually enables change. Lisa Arnone, LCSW joins the conversation alongside callers working through these ideas in real time.

The Feeling of Powerlessness March 21, 2012

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Linda Vanella
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Power is largely an illusion, and fighting that truth is a recipe for depression, rigidity, and exhaustion. Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, trace powerlessness from its biological roots through addiction, codependency, grief, and disability, arguing that accepting what we cannot control is itself a form of strength.

The Danger of Unmet Expectations January 24, 2012

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Unmet expectations trigger a threat response in the brain far stronger than the pleasure of getting what we want. Armand DiMele examines how to stay adaptive when life diverges from the plan, drawing on callers dealing with job searching, a father’s death, and a partner’s crack addiction.

The Limits of Tolerance January 4, 2012

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Linda Vanella
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Tolerance is not just a virtue but a spectrum with a dark side. Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, examine where healthy acceptance ends and harmful condoning begins, covering religious intolerance, parenting, couples, and the fine line between endurance and enabling abuse.

The Nature of Trust December 14, 2011

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Linda Vanella
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Trust is not a virtue to be automatically granted but a skill built through experience and self-knowledge. Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, argue that rage, self-doubt, and fear of one’s own reactions are the real barriers to trust, and that radical honesty in relationships matters more than blind faith in others.

How We Cope With Buried Anger September 1, 2011

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Buried anger is the engine behind most psychological suffering. Armand DiMele maps the strategies people develop to survive it, from repression and regression to dissociation and acting out, tracing how childhood rules about anger shape adult behavior, relationships, and even career choices.

Complicated Grief with Nicole Alston January 4, 2011

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Linda Vanella, Nicole Alston
Category: Grief & Loss, Trauma & Healing

Prolonged grief can quietly hollow out a life for decades. Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, describes her group work helping bereaved parents move a lost child from unconscious suppression into conscious memory. Nicole Alston, LMSW, shares her own stillbirth loss, two-year withdrawal from life, and how that experience led her to found the Sky Foundation and produce a documentary on infant death in the African-American community.

Discernment and Passive Aggression in Relationships December 28, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Communication & Conflict, Emotions & Inner Life

Why do couples end up screaming about toothpaste? Armand DiMele argues that the real fight always happened days earlier and went unnoticed. He traces how unspoken irritation builds into passive aggression, how unmet needs distort perception, and why infidelity is often just an exit from a conversation nobody knew how to have.

Feelings Impulses and Behaviors December 14, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Armand DiMele draws a sharp line between thinking and feeling, arguing that most people use thoughts as escape hatches from uncomfortable emotions. He introduces his FIB framework (feelings, impulses, behaviors) and explains how expanding your emotional range reduces obsessions, phobias, and depression.

The Roots of Belligerence December 1, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Communication & Conflict, Emotions & Inner Life

Beneath belligerence lies fear, not rage. Armand DiMele and co-host Linda trace the signs of belligerent behavior from nervous hyperactivity through verbal attacks, explaining the hormonal drivers and why people cannot think their way out of the state. Callers share real conflicts, and yoga is offered as a practical path back to calm.