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The Three Modes of Thinking Undated

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Ben Starr, Giullian Gioiello, Mingyi, Pierre, Troy
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, The Mind & Neuroscience

Armand DiMele, with co-hosts Ben Starr and Giullian Gioiello, lays out a three-part framework for how the mind works: pathological thinking (emotion-driven and invisible to itself), logical thinking (pure comparison, no feeling), and psychological thinking (intellect in harmony with emotion). Callers bring the theory to life, revealing how denied feelings quietly hijack everyday thought.

Why Couples Fight So Ugly Undated

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Communication & Conflict, Love & Romantic Relationships

Reasonable people become their worst selves with their partners. Armand draws on John Gottman’s research to explain why couples slide into contempt, rage, and stonewalling, and offers practical tools like the five-to-one positivity ratio and the “pause clause” to break destructive cycles.

Catastrophizing and Trivializing Undated

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Anxiety & Fear, Emotions & Inner Life

Some people turn every minor setback into a crisis; others dismiss everything as no big deal. Armand DiMele unpacks both tendencies, tracing catastrophizing to guilt, anxiety, and childhood bids for attention, and trivializing to emotional numbness, arguing that a healthy relationship needs both types in balance.

Emotional Fitness with Dr. Vivian Wolsk Undated

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Vivian Wolsk
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Most people are not emotionally ill, just emotionally out of shape. Armand DiMele and Dr. Vivian Wolsk, Executive Director of the Gestalt Center for Psychotherapy and Training, explore emotional fitness, the body’s role in identifying feelings, the empty chair technique, and why negative programming feels so compelling.

Toxic Workplace Patterns with Kathy Elster and Catherine Crowley Undated

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Catherine Crowley, Kathy Elster
Category: Communication & Conflict, Personal Growth & Change

When coworkers and bosses drive us crazy, the cause is often older than the job. Kathy Elster and Catherine Crowley, authors of Working With You Is Killing Me, join Armand DiMele to explain how family-of-origin patterns quietly shape who we hire, who we resent, and why some toxic work relationships feel impossible to leave.

Feelings You Are Supposed to Have Undated

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Identity & The Self

Why do people fail to feel what others expect them to feel? Armand DiMele examines the gap between expected and actual emotion, from maternal instinct and monogamy to pride, generosity, and remorse. Callers share their own struggles, including one survivor reconnecting with spirituality after trauma.

Surviving the Holiday Season Undated

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Family & Parenting

The holidays bring more psychological distress than any other time of year, and Armand DiMele offers practical strategies for navigating them. Topics range from seasonal affective disorder and family dinner blow-ups to the Italian phrase “stataziti” (zip it), loneliness, and a caller’s anxious child.

Fear Behind Every Difficult Behavior Undated

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Roberta Maria Atti
Category: Anxiety & Fear, Emotions & Inner Life

Almost all erratic, confusing, or harmful human behavior traces back to fear. Armand DiMele and co-host Roberta Maria Atti walk through the evolutionary roots of fear, its biochemistry, and how recognizing that someone is frightened rather than attacking changes everything about how we respond to them.

Releasing Repressed Emotion with Anne Marganow Undated

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Anne Marganow
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Bottled-up feelings turn into rage, depression, and stuck stories. Armand DiMele and therapist Anne Marganow argue that accessing fear, sadness, and vulnerability is not weakness but the path to self-support, discussing breathwork, role-switching, and why hysteria is actually a flight from feeling.