Keyword: attachment

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Consistency in Parenting and Love Undated

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Family & Parenting, Love & Romantic Relationships

Research showing that withholding love produces more resentment in children than direct punishment opens a wide conversation about how parental inconsistency shapes romantic life. Armand DiMele takes calls from listeners wrestling with cold mothers, oversharing on dates, and the surprising urge to sabotage genuine love once you finally find it.

Borderline Personality Disorder with Dr. Frank Yeomans Undated

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Frank Yeomans
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Identity & The Self

Borderline personality disorder turns emotions into a force of nature, and Armand uses Marilyn Monroe as a window into what it feels like to live that way. Dr. Frank Yeomans explains the four core dimensions of BPD, why ordinary therapy often fails these patients, and what genuine recovery looks like beyond mere symptom remission.

What Love Actually Feels Like Undated

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Love & Romantic Relationships

Love means something different to everyone, and Armand DiMele makes the case that it is fundamentally an internal feeling rather than a fixed set of behaviors or rules. He examines love as fear, possession, safety, sex, and even addiction, arguing that your version of love is valid whatever form it takes.

Why Men Marry Their Mothers Undated

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Ben Starr, Linda Vanella, Ori Amini Morrison
Category: Family & Parenting, Love & Romantic Relationships

Trauma-induced intimacy disorder shapes who we choose to love. Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, and Ora Yemini-Morrison, LCSW, join Armand to unpack why men unconsciously replicate the mother bond in romantic partnerships, why women do the same with fathers, and how early boundary failures drive fear of commitment, enmeshment, and the mama’s boy pattern across cultures.

Mating Intelligence and the Love Delusion Undated

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Christine Ulrich, Iris Reiner
Category: Love & Romantic Relationships, The Mind & Neuroscience

Why are humans biologically wired to deceive each other and themselves in love? Armand DiMele unpacks “mating intelligence,” covering how men misread smiles as sexual interest, how women strategically lie about sexual history, and how dopamine-fueled delusion actually helps couples bond. Researcher Iris Reiner and Christine Ulrich join to connect attachment theory and the DRD4 gene to adult romantic security.

The Need to Be Held with Jean Liedloff Undated

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Jean Liedloff
Category: Family & Parenting, Identity & The Self

What happens to people who were never held as babies? Jean Liedloff, author of “The Continuum Concept,” argues that the unmet need for physical contact in infancy drives lifelong restlessness, rage, and self-rejection. Armand and callers trace the thread from Columbine to loneliness to addiction.

Love and Pain as Partners Undated

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Love & Romantic Relationships

Love cannot exist without pain, and accepting both is the only way to play the bigger game. Armand DiMele reflects on preparing a wedding ceremony speech and argues that conflict, loss, and disillusionment are not failures of love but built into its nature, using caller stories to illustrate the point.

Childhood Needs in Adult Relationships with Portia Franklin Undated

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Albert Pesso, Diane Boyden Pesso, Ilana Rubenfeld, Portia Franklin
Category: Love & Romantic Relationships, Personal Growth & Change

Unmet childhood needs quietly drive adult relationship failures. Armand and Portia Franklin, a New York psychotherapist trained in the methods of Albert Pesso, Co-founder, Pesso Boyden Therapy, walk through five core needs: place, support, nurturance, protection, and loving limits, and explain how their absence gets re-enacted with partners who can never truly fill them.