Keyword: attachment

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How Depression and Moving Affect Family Bonds June 3, 2009

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Family & Parenting, Love & Romantic Relationships

Frequent family moves double teen suicide risk, antidepressants quietly erode sexual desire and romantic attachment, and childhood wounds quietly shape adult partner choices. Armand DiMele connects these threads through research and caller conversations, arguing that what couples fight about is rarely what they are actually fighting about.

How Memory Shapes the Love We Seek March 5, 2009

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Love & Romantic Relationships, The Mind & Neuroscience

Every time we recall a memory, we alter it slightly, building love lives on reconstructed rather than real experiences. Armand DiMele traces the neuroscience of memory from protein synthesis at the synapse to the ways callers mourn lost parents, idealize childhood, and search for love modeled on images that may never have existed.

Attachment Styles in Love with Dr. Iris Reiner March 26, 2008

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Iris Reiner
Category: Identity & The Self, Love & Romantic Relationships

Secure, dismissing, preoccupied: researcher Dr. Iris Reiner breaks down the three attachment styles and what they look like in real relationships. Armand and Reiner explore why opposites attract, how genetics shape emotional patterns, and why understanding your style is the first step toward compassion for yourself and others.

Need and Desperation in Love March 4, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Love & Romantic Relationships

Why does love, the ultimate prize, cause so much pain? Armand DiMele traces the roots of romantic neediness, examining how men and women fall into obsession at different points in a relationship, why desperation can both draw people in and push them away, and what the concept of limerence reveals about involuntary romantic longing.

The Pursuit of Happiness with Nicholas Vreeland October 4, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Alexandra Beller, Nicholas Vreeland
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Meaning, Spirituality & Philosophy

True happiness cannot be captured in a memory, a possession, or another person. Armand DiMele explores that argument with Nicholas Vreeland of the Tibet Center, previewing the Dalai Lama’s Radio City teachings on emptiness, and choreographer Alexandra Beller, whose new dance piece stages the futile human habit of chasing happiness outside ourselves.

Love Regrets November 16, 2006

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Love & Romantic Relationships

What do you wish you had done differently in love? Armand DiMele maps five distinct love styles (storge, agape, mania, pragma, eros) to the specific regrets each one breeds, arguing that most romantic mistakes trace back to unresolved childhood needs playing out in adult relationships. Callers share their own love regrets live on air.

The Ghosts We Keep Alive August 15, 2006

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Depression & Mood, Emotions & Inner Life

Why do certain people, places, and memories haunt us long after they’re gone? Armand DiMele argues that ghosts serve a function: they keep us from sinking into depression by giving us a focus outside ourselves. Callers share their own ghost stories, revealing how anger, longing, and comparison all sustain these invisible presences.

Fathers as Dark Matter with Dr. Scott Baum August 3, 2006

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Scott Baum
Category: Family & Parenting, Identity & The Self

Fathers exert enormous psychological force even through absence, argues Dr. Scott Baum, PhD, Psychologist, who calls them the dark matter of the psychic universe. Armand DiMele and Baum dig into male shame, competitive rage, and the hidden damage fathers inflict without ever raising a hand, drawing on Baum’s own story and calls from listeners navigating estranged sons.

The Power of Human Touch June 28, 2006

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Neil Shatka, Jean Liedloff, Roberta Maria Atti
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Without touch, infants die and adults wither. Armand and co-host Roberta Maria Atti trace the evolutionary roots of touch from homunculus brain maps to the Tellington method, while examining how American culture’s deep ambivalence about physical contact has produced high rates of child beatings and low rates of nurturing affection. Jean Liedloff, Author, whose Amazon fieldwork inspired the previous episode, hovers over the discussion.

Your Three Survival Instincts December 27, 2005

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Identity & The Self

Self-preservation, social belonging, and the drive for intense one-to-one connection are the three instincts shaping every personality. Armand DiMele maps how each type behaves at a party, in a relationship, and under stress, arguing that your weakest instinct is where your life breaks down. Callers test the framework live.