Every change demands a loss, and Armand DiMele makes that the central argument of this New Year’s Day reflection. Wanting more organization means surrendering some creative chaos; dropping anger means facing the sadness underneath it. He walks through anger, depression, isolation, and petty dishonesty as sites where real change begins, and closes with a set of simple, non-preachy invitations: weep freely, listen without challenging, apologize, be kinder.