High self-esteem is not the simple good we’ve been told it is. Armand DiMele and co-host Roberta examine research showing that abusers and violent criminals often score high on self-esteem scales, why therapists’ reliance on supportive praise backfires, and what honest self-knowledge offers instead.
Why do 30% of adults regularly daydream about being famous? Armand DiMele traces the fame motive to childhood homes where recognition was scarce, arguing that the hunger to be seen by strangers is distinct from wanting wealth or power and intensifies across the lifespan, even into old age.
Passion, technique, and emotional honesty are all part of good sex, argues Dr. Judy Kuriansky, a veteran sex therapist and protege of Masters and Johnson. She and Armand DiMele, joined by Stephanie D’Ambra, LCSW, debate Schnarch’s raw-desire model against Kuriansky’s view that intimacy is a skill built through practice, gestalt techniques, and her three A’s: acceptance, acknowledgment, and appreciation.
Being truly heard is something most people rarely experience, argues psychotherapist Kevin Heaney, a specialist in addiction and family therapy. Armand and Kevin unpack how attunement and validation work in therapy and in everyday relationships, why hearing someone’s truth matters even when the story is incomplete, and how therapists can teach couples and families to do the same.
