Why do people sabotage peace and quiet? Armand DiMele argues that neurotic behavior, from triangulation to volatile relationships, is not weakness but a disguised grab for power. Recognizing that hidden payoff, he suggests, is the first step toward finally choosing the high road.
Family secrets don’t just hide the truth, they divide families, freeze emotional development, and corrode trust for generations. Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, walk through four ways secrets damage families and offer practical guidance on breaking destructive triangles, with callers sharing their own experiences.
Triangulation is both a normal developmental step and a source of lasting dysfunction. Armand DiMele traces how children get pulled into taking sides between parents, how gossip and confiding in friends repeat the same pattern, and why splitting the world into all-good and all-bad leaves people stuck. Callers share their own family triangle experiences.
Why is Father’s Day so emotionally loaded? Armand DiMele walks through the many reasons people carry unresolved anger toward their fathers, from absenteeism and favoritism to criticism and triangulation, and how those feelings quietly shape adult relationships, work, and identity. Callers share fond memories alongside the pain.
Every family is a system, and the ‘sick’ member is rarely the only one who needs help. Armand DiMele walks through systems theory from triangulation and the rebel child to Munchausen by proxy, arguing that treating the individual without the whole family often misses the point entirely.
