Why do people who fight passionately for others surrender control at home? Armand DiMele argues that submission carries hidden rewards, chiefly freedom from decision-making and a longing for parental nurturing, while dominance often masks deep feelings of powerlessness. Callers share their own struggles with unequal partnerships.
Submission is not always weakness. Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, map the difference between servers and peacemakers, trace learned helplessness from childhood abuse to elderly isolation, and examine how dominance hierarchies shape everything from family dynamics to corporate mergers and sexual behavior.
Melissa Febos, author of the memoir “Whip Smart,” describes her four years as a professional dominatrix in Midtown Manhattan and what it taught her about power and fear. Armand DiMele and co-host Dr. Sherry Siegel probe why high-powered men seek submission, and Febos reflects on how therapy finally let her see the work clearly.
