Keyword: self-protection

Strategies for Getting Through Life November 12, 2014

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Ben Starr, Giullian Gioiello

Everyone develops a strategy for getting through life, and most of them form in childhood. Armand DiMele, joined by co-hosts Ben Starr and Giullian Gioiello, maps out the recurring patterns: the beauty-seeker, the easygoing half-asleep type, the controller who trusts no one, the dramatic emotional type. Understanding someone’s strategy, rather than judging it, is the path to genuine connection.

Exit Strategies in Love and Relationships April 29, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

Most people enter relationships with an unconscious escape plan already in place. Armand DiMele argues that children, debt, sexual withdrawal, hobbies, and infidelity all serve as built-in exit strategies, and that the people who suffer most after a breakup are those who never had one.

The Masks We Wear When Wounded April 22, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Anne Marganow, Claudia Fox, Diane, Matilda, Susie

Hiding pain behind a strong face is survival instinct, but it costs us. Armand DiMele uses the silverback gorilla as a metaphor for how wounded people perform strength, weaving in the Platters’ “Great Pretender” and a famous poem by Charles Finn to show how masks protect us while keeping us unknown and alone.