Keyword: resistance

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Why We Resist Change August 13, 2013

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Andrea Katz, Andrew Phillips, Giullian Gioiello
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Change is inevitable, but transition is psychological and far slower than the physical event. Armand DiMele breaks down why people cling to the status quo, why being changed against your will hurts more than choosing change yourself, and how to use the uncertain in-between period as a space for growth. Co-host Giullian Gioiello joins the conversation.

The Art of Self-Inquiry July 31, 2012

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Lisa Arnone
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Most people ask the wrong questions about themselves. Armand DiMele and Lisa Arnone, LCSW walk through a structured framework for deeper self-inquiry, moving from surface-level complaints through feelings, causality, and self-acceptance, with caller conversations illustrating each step live.

The Part of You That Resists Change June 20, 2012

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Lisa Arnone
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Growth has three stages: awareness, knowledge, and personal change. Armand DiMele and Lisa Arnone, LCSW, walk through each, arguing that real transformation begins not with making changes but with seeing your situation clearly and without judgment. The episode’s centerpiece is the “engineer,” an inner force that fights to keep you exactly as you are and can only be moved by negotiation, not force.

Happiness and the Resistance to Change December 1, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Sherri Siegel
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Why do we keep making the same resolutions year after year? Armand DiMele and Dr. Sherry Siegel, M.D. dig into the inner force that blocks change, tracing resistance through its many disguises including procrastination, self-criticism, and forgetting. Armand’s concept of the internal “engineer” offers a fresh way to understand why the familiar, even when harmful, feels safer than growth.

The Four Day Win with Dr. Martha Beck November 20, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Martha Beck
Category: Addiction & Compulsion, Personal Growth & Change

Self-loathing drives the very behaviors we are trying to stop. Dr. Martha Beck, author of The Four Day Win, explains how fight-or-flight responses sabotage change, introduces the “dictator” and “wild child” as tools for self-understanding, and offers a Tibetan loving-kindness practice as the surprisingly simple engine of lasting transformation.

Who You Are Not December 22, 2005

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Identity & The Self, Personal Growth & Change

Most people perform a version of themselves that isn’t really them. Armand DiMele invites callers to confess what they pretend to be (successful, sexy, polished, smart) and finds that dropping the pose is the fastest route to your actual self. The episode also reframes resistance as a natural, even useful force rather than an obstacle to overcome.

The Comfort Zone and Resistance to Change Undated

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Why do we resist change even when our circumstances make us miserable? Armand DiMele examines the psychology of the comfort zone, repetition compulsion, and the moment people finally say no more. Real change, he argues, requires a kind of death before any rebirth is possible.