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How Defense Mechanisms Shape Our Lives January 18, 2012

Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Anxiety is the antenna that triggers self-protection, and Armand DiMele and co-host Linda Vanilla walk through the full spectrum of psychological defenses, from denial and repression to dissociation and passive aggression. Caller stories ground the theory in real family pain, showing how childhood coping habits outlive their usefulness.

Accessing Your Real Self: What Does It Mean to Be Real November 30, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Alberto, Charles Bavona, Karen, Kelly, Megan, Monroe, Shakara, Teresa

Category: Identity & The Self

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the profound question of what it means to be real. Through introspective dialogue and listener call-ins, he discusses how people present either strength or weakness depending on their needs, fears, or survival instincts. Armand connects the idea of authenticity with pain, vulnerability, and presence, arguing that “crazy” behaviors are often adaptations to protect fragile selves. Excerpts from The Velveteen Rabbit and quotes from E.E. Cummings, Judy Garland, and others enrich the philosophical journey. Callers share personal experiences with trauma, depression, overthinking, and strained relationships, revealing how pain, when accepted, can guide people back to their true selves. The episode urges listeners to face discomfort, question disguises, and reclaim their real identities.

Unfinished Business and Gestalt Therapy January 13, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Unresolved childhood patterns drive adult behavior, and Gestalt therapy offers tools to name them. Armand DiMele walks through core Gestalt concepts including retroflection, deflection, confluence, and projection, showing how each keeps people stuck in the same drama. The episode opens with a heartfelt reflection on the Haiti earthquake.

Denial and Its Many Forms June 4, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Addiction & Compulsion, Emotions & Inner Life

Denial is the foundation of addiction, the first response to death, and the reason heart attacks go untreated. Armand DiMele breaks down six distinct forms, from simple denial of fact to the subtler denial of cycle and denial of denial, and explains how facing reality, even in someone else’s dying moments, can be the greatest gift we offer.

The Invisible Outhouse We Carry December 27, 2007

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Identity & The Self, Personal Growth & Change

We all carry invisible psychological shields, shaped in childhood, that distort how we see ourselves and others. Armand uses the Mr. Bean outhouse gag as a running metaphor for these blind spots, then takes calls from listeners who recognize their own, from chronic tension to conflict avoidance to a lifelong pattern of addiction.

The Many Faces of Denial November 28, 2007

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Addiction & Compulsion, Emotions & Inner Life

Denial is not weakness but an evolved survival tool, and Armand DiMele breaks down its many forms: denial of fact, responsibility, impact, awareness, and cycle. He connects this mechanism to addiction, overeating, abusive relationships, and even the subprime mortgage collapse, then works through caller stories to show how denial operates from the inside.

The Many Shapes of a Relationship Undated

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Giullian Gioiello, Ora Yemini Morrison

Category: Identity & The Self, Love & Romantic Relationships

Romantic partnerships rarely fit a single mold. Armand DiMele and co-hosts Ora Yemini-Morrison, LCSW and Giullian Gioiello map over a dozen relationship styles, from fantasy and lies to dominance, competition, and enabling, arguing that most couples fall into rigid patterns and that recognizing yours is the first step toward something better.