Keyword: abandonment

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Games People Play with Dr. Claude Steiner April 30, 2013

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Claude Steiner
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Childhood patterns harden into the repetitive emotional games that wreck adult relationships. Dr. Claude Steiner, a pioneering transactional analysis theorist, walks Armand through classic games like Uproar, Why Don’t You Yes But, and Now I’ve Got You, then explains how the drama triangle keeps people cycling through persecutor, rescuer, and victim roles.

Why People Worry April 18, 2012

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Anxiety & Fear, Identity & The Self

Chronic worry is not random nervousness but a survival strategy rooted in childhood fears of abandonment and rejection. Armand DiMele draws on Jeffrey Young’s maladaptive schema theory to walk through the major life traps, including abandonment, mistrust, dependency, and vulnerability, showing how each one drives the worrying mind.

How We Learn to Get Loved November 8, 2011

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Identity & The Self, Love & Romantic Relationships

Why do we pursue love the way we do? Armand DiMele traces how childhood strategies for earning affection harden into adult personality patterns, using the Enneagram’s nine types to show how perfectionists, caretakers, performers, and others each chase bonding in ways that can undermine the very connection they crave.

Abandonment Rage February 2, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie D'Ambra
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Love & Romantic Relationships

When love is withdrawn, some people don’t just grieve, they rage. Armand DiMele and Stephanie D’Ambra, LCSW examine why lost love can trigger obsessive calling, stalking, and even violence, tracing the reaction to a primitive wound response and asking whether abandonment rage is a kind of temporary insanity.

Father’s Day Feelings June 12, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Family & Parenting

Why is Father’s Day so emotionally loaded? Armand DiMele walks through the many reasons people carry unresolved anger toward their fathers, from absenteeism and favoritism to criticism and triangulation, and how those feelings quietly shape adult relationships, work, and identity. Callers share fond memories alongside the pain.

The Father Inside You Undated

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Family & Parenting, Identity & The Self

Father’s Day triggers deep, often denied wounds that shape careers, relationships, and self-worth. Armand DiMele maps the landscape of absent, frightening, and emotionally dead fathers, argues that most men’s self-hatred traces back to unacknowledged need for their fathers, and fields calls from listeners grappling with unavailable dads and its lasting fallout.