Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, take Max Ehrmann’s “Desiderata” line by line, testing each piece of wisdom against real life. The episode argues that genuine new thinking beats hollow resolutions, and that many fears are simply born of fatigue and loneliness.
Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, use the prose poem “Desiderata” as a springboard for the new year, pushing back on its platitudes while extracting real wisdom about fear born from fatigue, gracefully letting go of youth, staying curious, and being gentle with yourself.
Love, Armand argues, is what keeps us moving through life, and sex is what keeps love alive. With Linda Vanella, LCSW-R and Michael Jessen, Armand explores why the very traits that draw us to a partner eventually become their most irritating qualities, and what it takes to push through that reversal into a deeper connection.
Why are so many people buying themselves presents this season? Armand DiMele traces the psychology of holiday self-gifting, recession fatigue, and the family roles we slip into each year, from peacemaker to scapegoat. Callers share creative alternatives to spending, including a homemade music CD that became a family tradition.
Life does get better for most people, and Armand explores why with Dr. Kent Robertshaw, MD, Psychiatrist, and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R. Three forces drive improvement over time: burnout from exhausting old patterns, learning to manage triggers, and growing self-acceptance. Psychiatric advances, caller stories about ambivalent relationships, and the transformative love of parenthood all figure in.
Radio as a surrogate parent, a comfort, and a formative presence. Armand reads listener memories of golden-age programs, transistor radios under pillows, and male voices that filled the absence of distant or missing fathers, revealing a common emotional thread running through decades of devoted listening.
Rebellion is not a problem to suppress but a developmental skill to celebrate. Armand DiMele argues that children who push back against parents are building the same muscle they need to resist dominating peers and dangerous strangers. Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, shares how raising four children taught her to read defiance as a bid for independence, and callers add vivid stories of rebellion, loss, and trust.
Armand DiMele lays out his own framework for the eight phases romantic love passes through, from the chemistry-driven honeymoon to the seven-year itch, selective immobility, and beyond. Co-host Stephanie joins the discussion, and Helen Fisher’s work on love and brain chemistry gets a nod along the way.
Why do some people seek danger while others avoid any uncertainty? Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, examine how risk perception forms in infancy, shapes adult behavior, and shifts with age. They trace the brain chemistry of thrill-seeking, the trap of compulsive avoidance, and why the mind is often the biggest obstacle to living freely.
Most older adults are not depressed, not dependent, and not eager to move in with their children. Dr. Bernard Starr, PhD, Psychologist, joins Armand to dismantle those myths with research, and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, weighs in on seniors who self-isolate. Hidden alcohol abuse, the loneliness of widowhood, and a bold proposal to tap elder wisdom in education all get airtime.
