What makes a person abnormal? Armand DiMele walks through the criteria psychiatry uses to define abnormality, from maladaptivity to cultural norms, then turns to paraphilias, hidden secrets, and the shame that grows the harder we work to conceal them. Callers share their own experiences of feeling outside the norm.
Body piercing is not about fashion but about reclaiming parts of yourself that were taken away in childhood. Armand DiMele and Stephanie Roth-Goldberg, LCSW, argue that each piercing site maps onto a specific loss: ears to being heard, lips to voice, eyes to perception, genitals to sexual autonomy, and the navel to maternal connection.
Overprotective parenting is producing psychologically fragile young adults, argues Hara Estroff Marano, Author and Psychology Today Editor. Armand DiMele and Marano dig into college mental health data, the neuroscience of play, the danger of misplaced praise, and why letting kids fail early is the kindest thing a parent can do.
Denial is the foundation of addiction, the first response to death, and the reason heart attacks go untreated. Armand DiMele breaks down six distinct forms, from simple denial of fact to the subtler denial of cycle and denial of denial, and explains how facing reality, even in someone else’s dying moments, can be the greatest gift we offer.
What does it mean to be your authentic self? Armand DiMele examines how people mistake the absence of pain, the comfort of control, or the praise of others for genuine selfhood. A reading from the Velveteen Rabbit anchors the conversation, and charged phone calls push the inquiry into real territory.
Can quantum physics explain how we create our own reality? Dr. Natalie Reed joins Armand to argue that reprogramming the subconscious, not just positive thinking, is what drives real change. A memorable caller segment on hoarding reveals clutter as surrogate family and emotional armor against depression.
Willpower is a finite chemical resource, not a moral virtue. Armand DiMele draws on research by Roy Baumeister to show how blood sugar fuels self-control, why tackling multiple goals at once backfires, and how treating willpower like a muscle allows it to grow over time.
Every relationship requires a balance between individual identity and couplehood. Armand DiMele argues that losing the “me” inside the “we” drives compulsive behaviors from internet pornography to over-exercising, and that preserving a private self is not a threat to love but its foundation.
Secure, dismissing, preoccupied: researcher Dr. Iris Reiner breaks down the three attachment styles and what they look like in real relationships. Armand and Reiner explore why opposites attract, how genetics shape emotional patterns, and why understanding your style is the first step toward compassion for yourself and others.
Where do our moral instincts actually come from? Armand DiMele traces the origins of right and wrong through Freudian id-ego-superego theory, transactional analysis, and new neuroscience showing that damage to the prefrontal cortex shifts people toward utilitarian choices, raising hard questions about guilt, empathy, and who gets to judge.
