Category: Identity & The Self

Accessing Your Real Self: What Does It Mean to Be Real November 30, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Alberto, Charles Bavona, Karen, Kelly, Megan, Monroe, Shakara, Teresa

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the profound question of what it means to be real. Through introspective dialogue and listener call-ins, he discusses how people present either strength or weakness depending on their needs, fears, or survival instincts. Armand connects the idea of authenticity with pain, vulnerability, and presence, arguing that “crazy” behaviors are often adaptations to protect fragile selves. Excerpts from The Velveteen Rabbit and quotes from E.E. Cummings, Judy Garland, and others enrich the philosophical journey. Callers share personal experiences with trauma, depression, overthinking, and strained relationships, revealing how pain, when accepted, can guide people back to their true selves. The episode urges listeners to face discomfort, question disguises, and reclaim their real identities.

The Question Behind the Question November 10, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

The questions we ask others are rarely the questions we really need to answer. Armand DiMele argues that most of our probing, deflecting, and loaded questions in relationships mask a single deeper fear: am I safe? Callers explore jealousy, marital uncertainty, and longing through this lens.

What Kind of Bird Are You in Manhattan November 3, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

Manhattan has a rhythm, and how you move through it reveals who you are. Armand DiMele sorts city dwellers into owls, peacocks, pigeons, hawks, eagles, and parrots, then opens the phones to callers sharing their first raw impressions of the city and what it means to call it home.

The Psychopath Brain September 16, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie D'Ambra

Psychopaths are charming, fearless, and wired differently. Armand DiMele and Stephanie D’Ambra, LCSW break down the neuroscience behind psychopathy, examining how thinning in the paralimbic system impairs empathy, impulse control, and the ability to learn from punishment, and why that makes the bad boy so seductive.

Nature Versus Nurture in Parenting September 7, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie D'Ambra

Can good parenting overcome bad genes? Armand DiMele and Stephanie D’Ambra, LCSW, dig into the nature versus nurture debate through real cases: a mother baffled by her troubled teen, a neuroscientist who carries a psychopath’s genetic profile yet lives normally, and callers including an adoptee who found her musical gift written in her DNA.

Extroversion and Introversion August 31, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

Where do you fall on the introvert-extrovert spectrum, and does it matter? Armand DiMele and co-host Stephanie Dombrough break down the neuroscience and psychology behind each type, the myth that introversion equals shyness, and how misreading these differences creates conflict in relationships and households.

Growing Up in the 20-Something Generation August 25, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Lauren Sykes, Linda Vanella

Why are so many young adults delaying marriage, careers, and commitment well into their 20s and beyond? Armand DiMele and Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, dig into shifting milestones, the rise of the “hipster” lifestyle, political disillusionment, and whether prolonged adolescence reflects freedom, avoidance, or something in between.

The Child Inside You Deserves Kindness August 24, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

Self-hatred often masks a frightened inner child, not a moral failing. Armand DiMele traces self-loathing from passive-aggressive behavior and ethnic shame to physical self-criticism, arguing that the antidote is treating yourself with the same protective warmth you would offer a hurt child.

The Blind Spot of Self-Awareness June 24, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie D'Ambra

When people can’t perceive their own illness or failings, the result isn’t simple denial but something deeper. Armand DiMele and Stephanie D’Ambra, LCSW, trace anosognosia from schizophrenia and stroke through everyday blindness to incompetence, exploring why the inability to see oneself is a root cause of violence, failed plans, and broken relationships.

The Gifts of Neurodiversity with Dr. Thomas Armstrong June 22, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Thomas Armstrong, Stephanie D'Ambra

What if autism, depression, anxiety, and ADHD carry genuine strengths alongside their challenges? Dr. Thomas Armstrong argues that reframing these conditions as brain differences rather than disorders reveals hidden gifts, and Armand and Stephanie D’Ambra, LCSW explore how safe relationships and tailored environments help neurodiverse people thrive.