Category: Emotions & Inner Life

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The Many Faces of Loneliness December 8, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Linda Vanella
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Identity & The Self

Loneliness is not a feeling but a perception, Armand DiMele argues, shaped by how many connections we hold and whether we feel truly heard. With Linda Vanella, LCSW-R, he maps the spectrum from highly connected people to those who isolate as self-protection, and examines how shopping, affairs, and caretaking often mask the ache of disconnection.

The Secrets We Keep December 7, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Family & Parenting

Secrets shape every layer of life, from the truths we hide from ourselves to the ones buried inside families for generations. Armand DiMele examines why some secrets protect and others destroy, when revealing them heals, and when it causes further harm. Callers share their own long-held burdens.

The Roots of Belligerence December 1, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Communication & Conflict, Emotions & Inner Life

Beneath belligerence lies fear, not rage. Armand DiMele and co-host Linda trace the signs of belligerent behavior from nervous hyperactivity through verbal attacks, explaining the hormonal drivers and why people cannot think their way out of the state. Callers share real conflicts, and yoga is offered as a practical path back to calm.

The Question Behind the Question November 10, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Identity & The Self

The questions we ask others are rarely the questions we really need to answer. Armand DiMele argues that most of our probing, deflecting, and loaded questions in relationships mask a single deeper fear: am I safe? Callers explore jealousy, marital uncertainty, and longing through this lens.

Sitting With the Question November 9, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

Armand DiMele argues that the most powerful thing you can do is stop rushing toward answers and learn to sit with your own questions. Drawing on Zen koans, caller conversations about aging relationships and childhood sexual abuse, and a clip from The Jerk, he shows how the right question opens you to genuine self-knowledge.

Gratitude and the Holiday Season November 1, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Society, Culture & Current Events

Gratitude is not automatic, Armand argues, and it depends on cost, intention, and empathy. He walks through the psychology of why we feel it, when we don’t, and how giving to others can unlock it. Callers share their own experiences of being alone during the holidays and finding meaning through volunteering.

My Mind Is Not Always My Friend with Stephen Fogle September 30, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie D'Ambra, Stephen Fogle
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Personal Growth & Change

The mind evolved to keep us safe, but its habit of replaying the past can turn it into an enemy. Armand DiMele sits down with author Stephen Fogle and co-host Stephanie D’Ambra, LCSW to examine how mislabeled memories trigger overreactions, why reason rarely wins against a fired amygdala, and how body awareness can break the cycle.

Overreaction and Emotional Flooding September 29, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Elisa, Feli Stengel, Lauren Sykes, Marcus, Thelma Wingate
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Love & Romantic Relationships

Why do people overreact, and what can you do when someone you love is on a tear? Armand DiMele examines the biology and culture of emotional flooding, from the moon cycle to reality TV’s exploitation of raw feeling, drawing on office manager Thelma Wingate’s experience managing flare-ups in dementia care. Callers weigh in on phobias, past life regression, and partners carrying divorce pain.

Jealousy Possessiveness and Belonging September 23, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie D'Ambra
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, Love & Romantic Relationships

Jealousy is almost universal in sexually active couples, yet we treat it as pathology. Armand DiMele and Stephanie D’Ambra, LCSW, trace possessiveness from toddler toy-sharing to marriage vows, and explore how smartphones and GPS tracking are intensifying the urge to monitor partners.

Jealousy and the Limits of Self-Awareness September 22, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotions & Inner Life, The Mind & Neuroscience

Jealousy strips away self-awareness faster than almost any other emotion, and Armand DiMele argues that is no accident. He traces the biological roots of jealousy, explains the neuroscience of introspection (gray and white matter in the prefrontal cortex), and shows why even sophisticated people collapse into blame when hormones or threat responses take over.