The Positive Mind

Keyword: self-worth

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Fear of Close Relationships October 4, 2011

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the reasons behind people’s fear of forming close relationships. He discusses how past experiences and childhood conditioning can lead to a reluctance to love and connect with others. Armand emphasizes the importance of recognizing these fears and understanding that love should not be equated with pain or control. He encourages listeners to confront their fears and to seek healthier, more fulfilling relationships. The episode also touches on the dynamics of control in relationships and the role of victimhood in emotional connections.

Ignoring People and Being Ignored August 16, 2011

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Lauren Sykes, Linda Vanella
Category: Social Dynamics and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex dynamics of being ignored and the act of ignoring others. He discusses how these behaviors can stem from childhood experiences and societal expectations, with insights on passive-aggressive tendencies and the need for attention. Through various anecdotes and examples, including the challenges faced in medical settings and personal relationships, the conversation delves into the emotional impact of feeling invisible. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own experiences with being ignored and the importance of communication in relationships.

Exploring the Real Self and Love April 1, 2011

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele delves into the complexities of the real self versus the outer self, questioning the authenticity of our identities. He discusses the concept of the loving self and how it relates to our feelings of satisfaction and connection with others. Through various examples, including relationships and personal experiences, Armand challenges listeners to reflect on their own perceptions of love and authenticity. The conversation emphasizes that love often reflects how we feel about ourselves in the presence of others, prompting a deeper exploration of what it means to be truly real.

Mindset February 1, 2011

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Carol Dweck
Category: Personal Growth and Well-being

In this episode, Armand DiMele speaks with Dr. Carol Dweck, a renowned psychologist and author of ‘Mindset.’ They explore the concepts of fixed and growth mindsets, discussing how these perspectives influence personal development, relationships, and reactions to challenges. Dweck emphasizes the importance of fostering a growth mindset in children to help them embrace challenges and learn from failures. The conversation also touches on the implications of mindset in various contexts, including education, parenting, and even societal issues like bullying. Through engaging dialogue, the episode highlights how mindset shapes our experiences and interactions.

Thursday Thoughts December 23, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the concept of vainglory, distinguishing it from boastfulness. He explores how vainglorious individuals often seek admiration by subtly inserting their accomplishments into conversations about significant events, like 9-11. Armand reflects on the nature of vanity and humility, emphasizing the importance of genuine humility over self-promotion. He encourages listeners to recognize the signs of vainglory in themselves and others, advocating for understanding and compassion towards those who may feel inadequate and resort to boasting as a defense mechanism. The episode concludes with a reminder of the value of humility in personal interactions.

Gratitude and the Holidays November 1, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Gratitude and Mindfulness

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of gratitude, especially during the holiday season. He discusses the expectations surrounding gratitude, the importance of empathy, and how individuals often overlook the effort that goes into holiday gatherings. Armand also addresses the feelings of loneliness that can accompany the holidays and offers suggestions for those who find themselves alone. He emphasizes the significance of volunteering and helping others as a way to foster gratitude and connection. The episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences with gratitude and the complexities of family dynamics during festive times.

Revenge and Its Consequences July 6, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Social Dynamics and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele and co-host Stephanie D’Ambra delve into the complex topic of revenge. They explore its origins, psychological implications, and societal consequences, questioning whether seeking vengeance truly brings satisfaction or merely perpetuates unhappiness. Through various examples, including historical references and personal anecdotes, they highlight the paradox of revenge, where those who seek it often end up feeling worse. The discussion encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences with revenge and the potential for healing through forgiveness and understanding rather than retaliation.

Undervalued Self April 8, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Elaine Aron
Category: Personal Growth and Identity

In this episode, Armand DiMele speaks with Dr. Elaine Aron, author of ‘The Undervalued Self.’ They explore the concept of self-worth and how individuals often undervalue themselves due to social hierarchies and comparisons. Dr. Aron discusses the importance of recognizing the difference between ranking and linking in relationships, emphasizing that true self-esteem comes from loving connections rather than societal standings. The conversation delves into the psychological impacts of feeling inadequate and the role of attachment in shaping our self-perception. Listeners are encouraged to foster linking relationships to combat feelings of undervaluation.

Abandonment Rage February 2, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie D'Ambra
Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele delves into the complex emotions surrounding love and abandonment, particularly focusing on the phenomenon of abandonment rage. He discusses how feelings of abandonment can lead to intense emotional reactions, including depression and rage, and explores the psychological implications of these feelings. The conversation includes insights on the chemistry of love, the impact of loss, and the ways individuals cope with the end of relationships. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own experiences with love and loss, and how these emotions manifest in their lives.

Exploring Relationships and Aging December 23, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Bernard Starr
Category: Generational and Age Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the complexities of love, relationships, and aging with Dr. Bernard Starr. They delve into the dynamics of intimacy, the perception of older individuals as resources, and the emotional challenges that arise when relationships falter. The conversation highlights the importance of communication and understanding in maintaining connections as people age, while also addressing societal stereotypes surrounding older adults. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own relationships and the ways in which aging impacts their lives and interactions.