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Venting: The Good and the Bad May 6, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie D'Ambra

Category: Psychology and Cultural Insights

In this episode, Armand DiMele and Stephanie D’Ambra explore the concept of venting, discussing its potential benefits and drawbacks. They delve into how venting can provide temporary relief from frustration and the importance of having a supportive listener. However, they also highlight research suggesting that excessive venting, especially in the context of trauma, can reinforce negative feelings and memories. The hosts emphasize the need for mindful communication and self-soothing techniques, rather than relying solely on venting to process emotions. The conversation touches on the implications of venting in various contexts, including relationships and mental health.

Greed and the Human Condition December 24, 2008

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Bernard Starr

Category: Money and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex nature of greed and its impact on human relationships and personal fulfillment. Joined by Dr. Bernard Starr, they discuss how greed can manifest in various forms, from the desire for wealth to the need for love and validation. Through engaging conversations and listener calls, they delve into the motivations behind greed and the importance of recognizing our desires. The episode emphasizes the need for balance in our lives, encouraging listeners to reflect on what truly matters—connection, love, and self-awareness—over material pursuits.

Love as an Antidote January 23, 2008

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Bob, Chris, Jake, Michael Heddo, Rohini Samwaru

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex relationship between love and hatred, questioning whether love truly is the antidote to negative emotions. He engages with listeners, including guest Rohini Samwaru, to discuss the nature of love, its significance, and how it intertwines with fear and self-identity. The conversation delves into the emotional struggles people face in relationships and the search for self-understanding through love. Armand challenges conventional views on love, urging listeners to reflect on their own experiences and the deeper meanings behind their feelings.

Self-Esteem: A Double-Edged Sword May 30, 2007

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Psychology and Cultural Insights

In this episode, Armand DiMele and Roberta Maria Atti explore the complex nature of self-esteem, questioning its perceived benefits and the potential pitfalls of inflated self-worth. They discuss the historical context of self-esteem in therapy, the misconceptions surrounding it, and how it can be both a source of strength and a mask for deeper issues like narcissism. The conversation delves into the impact of self-esteem on mental and physical health, the role of therapists, and the importance of genuine self-awareness over mere validation. They emphasize the need for a nuanced understanding of self-esteem, advocating for a balanced approach in therapy and personal development.

Unwelcomed Feelings in Your Life January 2, 2007

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of unwelcomed feelings that many individuals experience, particularly at the start of a new year. He discusses various emotions such as frustration, anger, jealousy, and impatience, which people often wish to avoid. Through listener emails and personal anecdotes, Armand encourages listeners to acknowledge these feelings rather than suppress them. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the root causes of these emotions and offers insights on how to manage them effectively. The conversation highlights the significance of self-awareness and the impact of emotions on daily life.

Understanding Depression April 6, 2006

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Mind and Mood Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of depression, discussing its nature, causes, and the misconceptions surrounding it. He emphasizes that the opposite of depression is not happiness, but rather normalcy. The show delves into how depression affects perception, emotional responses, and the importance of understanding the brain’s chemistry. Armand shares insights on how to support those who are depressed, highlighting the significance of validating their feelings rather than attempting to cheer them up. With a mix of personal anecdotes and scientific insights, this episode aims to shed light on the often misunderstood condition of depression.

Significance and the Search for Meaning Undated

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: John Valerio, Lisa Arnone

Category: Personal Growth and Identity

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the concept of significance and its impact on our lives. He explores how society’s obsession with being seen and recognized can lead to feelings of depression and insignificance. Through personal anecdotes and philosophical reflections, he questions the importance we place on external validation and the quest for recognition. The conversation delves into the nature of exhibitionism, agency, and the potential for finding meaning in moments of invisibility. Armand encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences with significance and the ways they seek to be noticed.

Consistency in Parenting and Relationships Undated

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Family and Relationship Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of consistency in parenting and personal relationships. He discusses a study by Israeli researchers that reveals how consistent parenting can lead to effective behavior in children, but may also foster resentment. Through listener calls, Armand delves into personal experiences, examining how past relationships with parents can influence adult romantic choices. The conversation highlights the challenges of navigating emotional connections, the impact of inconsistency, and the importance of understanding one’s own needs in relationships.

Political Frustration Undated

Category: Psychological Challenges and Growth

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the theme of political frustration and the feelings of powerlessness that many experience in the face of government actions they disagree with. He discusses the cyclical nature of rebellion and complacency, emphasizing how societal events can reignite the spirit of dissent. Through personal anecdotes and listener interactions, DeMille encourages listeners to reflect on their frustrations and the connections to their childhood experiences. He highlights the importance of community and support in overcoming feelings of isolation and despair, ultimately urging individuals to find their voice and fight against injustices.

Toxic Desires Undated

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Personal Growth and Awareness

In this episode, Armand DiMele and Dr. Deborah Hillman delve into the complexities of human desires, particularly those deemed toxic. They explore the emotional underpinnings of these desires, including feelings of powerlessness and the need for validation. Listeners are encouraged to call in and share their experiences with toxic desires, leading to insightful discussions about the consequences of pursuing such desires. The episode emphasizes the importance of recognizing and addressing the deeper emotional needs that often drive these toxic urges.