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Alter Selves and Psychological Functioning March 1, 2011

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Personal Growth and Awareness

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of alter selves and their impact on psychological functioning, particularly in relation to addiction and behavior disorders. He discusses how individuals often dissociate from their true selves in response to stress, trauma, or emotional challenges, creating alternate personalities that manage these experiences. Through anecdotes and insights from his extensive experience in psychotherapy, DeMille encourages listeners to recognize and befriend these alter personalities rather than criticize them. This approach may lead to better self-understanding and healing.

Thursday Thoughts December 23, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the concept of vainglory, distinguishing it from boastfulness. He explores how vainglorious individuals often seek admiration by subtly inserting their accomplishments into conversations about significant events, like 9-11. Armand reflects on the nature of vanity and humility, emphasizing the importance of genuine humility over self-promotion. He encourages listeners to recognize the signs of vainglory in themselves and others, advocating for understanding and compassion towards those who may feel inadequate and resort to boasting as a defense mechanism. The episode concludes with a reminder of the value of humility in personal interactions.

Paradox of Choice April 7, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Barry Schwartz, Sherri Siegel

Category: Philosophy and Personal Growth

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the paradox of choice, featuring insights from psychologist Barry Schwartz. Schwartz argues that while freedom and choice are essential to human welfare, an excess of options can lead to paralysis and dissatisfaction. He highlights how modern society’s abundance of choices in areas like healthcare and consumer goods can overwhelm individuals, making decision-making difficult and leading to regret. The conversation also touches on the implications of choice in personal relationships and the impact of societal expectations on happiness. Joined by guest Sherri Siegel, they explore the complexities of choice and its effects on mental health.

Significance and Childhood Fantasies April 23, 2009

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Personal Growth and Identity

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of significance and its impact on our lives, particularly through the lens of childhood fantasies. He discusses how feelings of insignificance can stem from family dynamics and societal expectations, leading to anxiety and a desperate need for recognition. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own childhood dreams and the ways these aspirations connect to their current sense of self-worth. Through engaging conversations with callers, the show highlights the importance of acknowledging our desires for significance and the ways we can find fulfillment in our lives.

Masks We Wear When Wounded April 22, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Anne Marganow, Claudia Fox, Diane, Matilda, Susie

Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of vulnerability and the masks we wear to hide our wounds. He discusses how individuals often project strength and confidence, especially during job searches or family gatherings, despite feeling hurt inside. Through anecdotes and a poignant poem, Armand invites listeners to reflect on the emotional toll of pretending to be okay. He emphasizes the importance of authenticity and the burden of maintaining a facade, encouraging listeners to embrace their true selves and seek genuine connections. The episode serves as a reminder that vulnerability can lead to deeper relationships and personal growth.

Bringing You Ideas for a Positively Minded Life October 29, 2008

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Bernard Starr

Category: Personal Growth and Awareness

In this episode, host Armand DiMele welcomes his longtime friend and psychologist Dr. Bernard Starr to discuss the evolution of psychotherapy, particularly focusing on the importance of emotional awareness and the concept of spiritual psychology. They explore how traditional therapy often emphasizes the ego and personal experiences, while spiritual psychology seeks to transcend these limitations. The conversation delves into the challenges of integrating emotional experiences with a broader understanding of consciousness, emphasizing the need for both personal and spiritual growth. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own emotional journeys and the complexities of relationships.

Irrationality and Expectations July 17, 2008

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Dan Ariely

Category: Health and Wellness Insights

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the concept of irrationality with behavioral economist Dr. Dan Ariely, author of ‘Predictably Irrational.’ They explore how expectations shape our experiences, particularly in the context of placebos and the psychology behind pain relief. Ariely shares personal anecdotes from his time in a burn unit and discusses the surprising effects of price and origin on perceived medication efficacy. The conversation delves into the complexities of human behavior, including the fear of abandonment and the dynamics of relationships, emphasizing the importance of understanding our irrational tendencies.

Body Piercing and Tattoos June 18, 2008

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie Roth

Category: Personal Growth and Identity

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the cultural significance of body piercings and tattoos with guest Stephanie Roth, a specialist in adolescent psychology. They explore the rising trend of body modifications, examining statistics on piercings among young adults and the psychological motivations behind them. Roth shares insights on how piercings can serve as a form of self-expression and a way to reclaim lost identity or bodily autonomy. The conversation also touches on the implications of tattoos, impulsivity in decision-making, and the deeper meanings behind these forms of body art.

Finding Your Authentic Self May 6, 2008

Category: Personal Growth and Awareness

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of identifying one’s authentic self amidst societal pressures and personal struggles. Through humor and insightful anecdotes, he discusses the nature of depression, creativity, and the quest for authenticity. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own experiences and feelings, questioning what is real and what is merely a facade. The episode also touches on the importance of self-discovery and the challenges of navigating emotions in a fast-paced world.

Finding Balance in Relationships April 1, 2008

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the delicate balance between individuality (‘me’) and togetherness (‘we’) in relationships. He discusses the importance of maintaining one’s identity while fostering a connection with a partner. Through various examples and insights, he highlights how losing oneself in a relationship can lead to feelings of desperation and isolation. The conversation emphasizes the need for autonomy within partnerships and encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences and the dynamics of their relationships. Armand invites callers to share their thoughts and challenges regarding this balance.