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Fear of Close Relationships October 4, 2011

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the reasons behind people’s fear of forming close relationships. He discusses how past experiences and childhood conditioning can lead to a reluctance to love and connect with others. Armand emphasizes the importance of recognizing these fears and understanding that love should not be equated with pain or control. He encourages listeners to confront their fears and to seek healthier, more fulfilling relationships. The episode also touches on the dynamics of control in relationships and the role of victimhood in emotional connections.

Exploring Attachments December 5, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Linda Vanella

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele and guest Linda Vanella Vanella Vanella delve into the concept of attachment styles, drawing from Mary Salter Ainsworth’s groundbreaking research. They discuss the various types of attachment—secure, anxious, and avoidant—and how these styles manifest in adult relationships. The conversation explores how our early experiences shape our adult attachments and the complexities of navigating intimacy and independence. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own attachment styles and how they impact their relationships, as well as the role of modern technology in shaping these dynamics.

Bonding and Therapy July 23, 2009

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Love, Relationships, and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the complexities of bonding in therapy and relationships, emphasizing the importance of oxytocin in fostering connections. He explores why individuals may leave therapy prematurely, citing reasons such as anger towards the therapist, financial constraints, and a lack of perceived progress. DeMille highlights the significance of trust and emotional connection in therapeutic settings, arguing that effective therapy often hinges on the bond between therapist and client. He also touches on the biological aspects of bonding, including the roles of oxytocin and prolactin in human relationships, and how these hormones influence feelings of love and attachment.

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence December 6, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Esther Perel

Category: Intimacy and Relationship Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele engages with renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel, exploring the complexities of desire, intimacy, and infidelity across different cultures. They discuss how societal norms shape sexual relationships, the impact of parenthood on eroticism, and the importance of maintaining desire in long-term partnerships. Perel emphasizes that desire is often rooted in absence and longing, and that couples must navigate the balance between emotional connection and sexual attraction. The conversation delves into the nuances of masculinity and femininity, revealing how modern relationships can thrive through understanding and communication.

Love Delusion and Mating Intelligence Undated

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Christine Ulrich, Iris Reiner

Category: Love, Relationships, and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex dynamics of romantic relationships, introducing the concept of ‘mating intelligence.’ He discusses how unconscious biases affect our perceptions of attraction and love, revealing that both men and women often misinterpret signals of interest. The episode highlights common misconceptions about dating behaviors, including how intelligence can skew perceptions of romantic interest. DeMille also examines the role of attachment styles in relationships, emphasizing how early experiences shape adult romantic behaviors. The discussion is enriched by insights from guest psychologist Iris Reiner, who delves into attachment theory and its implications for forming lasting partnerships.