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Understanding Addiction and Excess July 16, 2013

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Jonathan Berent

Category: Psychological Challenges and Growth

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex relationship between addiction and excess, likening them to a romance with inanimate substances. He shares personal anecdotes about his experiences with smoking and discusses how addiction can stem from unmet emotional needs and disappointments in human relationships. The conversation delves into the nature of social anxiety and shyness, emphasizing the importance of understanding the underlying emotional issues that contribute to these conditions. DeMille also highlights the role of parents in shaping a child’s social behavior and the impact of societal pressures on individual self-esteem.

Family Secrets and Their Impact August 17, 2011

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Lauren Sykes, Linda Vanella

Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex nature of family secrets and their profound effects on relationships. He discusses how secrets can divide families, create misunderstandings, and freeze emotional development. The conversation highlights the importance of timing and context when revealing secrets, emphasizing that while some secrets can foster bonds, others can lead to lasting emotional scars. Armand shares insights from his experience as a therapist, illustrating the delicate balance between keeping and revealing secrets within families. The episode encourages listeners to consider the impact of secrets on their own lives and relationships.

Secrets We Keep December 7, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex nature of secrets we keep from ourselves, our families, and our partners. He discusses how societal norms and personal fears can lead to hidden truths that affect our relationships and emotional well-being. Through various examples, including secrets about sexuality and family dynamics, Armand emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing these hidden aspects of our lives. He encourages listeners to reflect on their own secrets and the impact they have on their lives and relationships.

Undervalued Self April 8, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Elaine Aron

Category: Personal Growth and Identity

In this episode, Armand DiMele speaks with Dr. Elaine Aron, author of ‘The Undervalued Self.’ They explore the concept of self-worth and how individuals often undervalue themselves due to social hierarchies and comparisons. Dr. Aron discusses the importance of recognizing the difference between ranking and linking in relationships, emphasizing that true self-esteem comes from loving connections rather than societal standings. The conversation delves into the psychological impacts of feeling inadequate and the role of attachment in shaping our self-perception. Listeners are encouraged to foster linking relationships to combat feelings of undervaluation.

Financial Well-Being and Debt April 15, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Money and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the emotional and psychological impacts of financial stress and debt on individuals and families. He opens the lines for listeners to share their experiences and feelings about financial insecurity, emphasizing that everyone has the right to feel scared about their financial situation, regardless of their material possessions. The discussion touches on compulsive buying disorder, the stigma of debt, and the importance of maintaining emotional connections with loved ones during tough times. Armand encourages listeners to seek support and find strength in their relationships as they navigate financial challenges.

Understanding Punishment September 12, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Roberta Maria Atti

Category: Social Dynamics and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele and Roberta explore the complex nature of punishment, examining its role in society and individual psychology. They discuss various forms of punishment, from legal consequences to parental discipline, and delve into the motivations behind our need for limits and structure. The conversation highlights the fine line between constructive and destructive punishment, emphasizing how love and attention can be intertwined with punitive measures. Through anecdotes and reflections, they invite listeners to consider the implications of punishment in their own lives and relationships.

Valentine’s Day Insights on Love and Containment February 14, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Roberta Maria Atin

Category: Love, Relationships, and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele and Roberta Maria Ati explore the complexities of love, attachment, and the psychological need for containment in relationships. They discuss how childhood experiences shape our adult relationships and the importance of balance between closeness and independence. The conversation delves into the biochemical aspects of love, particularly the role of phenylethylamine (PEA) in fostering emotional connections. The hosts emphasize that separation can rejuvenate relationships, allowing partners to grow individually before reuniting. This Valentine’s Day, they encourage listeners to reflect on their own needs for containment and growth within their romantic connections.

Powerlessness and Helplessness November 8, 2006

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Kent Robertshaw

Category: Psychological Challenges and Growth

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the concepts of powerlessness and helplessness, particularly in the context of political and personal struggles. Joined by Kent Robertshaw, they explore how feelings of powerlessness can manifest in various forms, such as anxiety and social phobia. The conversation delves into the psychological implications of feeling out of control and the importance of recognizing one’s rights and entitlements. They emphasize that while powerlessness is a common human experience, acknowledging it can lead to personal growth and healing.

Shame and Addiction August 29, 2006

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Roberta Maria Atin

Category: Social Dynamics and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele and guest Roberta Maria Ati explore the complex emotions surrounding shame, particularly in the context of societal tragedies like Hurricane Katrina. They differentiate between legitimate and toxic shame, discussing how the latter can lead to suffering and addiction. The conversation delves into the psychological effects of witnessing disaster and the feelings of powerlessness that arise from inaction. They also critique the inadequate responses from authorities in the aftermath of such events and emphasize the importance of addressing emotional pain rather than numbing it. The episode highlights the need for deeper understanding and compassion in the face of collective trauma.

Intermittent Explosive Disorder August 23, 2006

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Christine Ulrich, Kent Robinshaw

Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) with doctors Kent Robinshaw and Christine Ulrich. They explore the prevalence of IED, its symptoms, and the underlying causes, including biological and psychological factors. The conversation highlights the importance of recognizing anger triggers and the role of therapy in managing explosive behaviors. The hosts also discuss the societal implications of IED and the need for effective treatment options. Listeners are encouraged to seek help if they or someone they know struggles with anger management issues.