Keyword: emotional health

Surviving Relationships and Exit Strategies April 29, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the often overlooked ‘flight’ reaction in relationships, contrasting it with the more commonly discussed ‘fight or flight’ response. He delves into how individuals prepare exit strategies in their relationships, whether consciously or subconsciously, and discusses the psychological mechanisms behind these behaviors. Armand categorizes people into three types based on their relationship dynamics: those who are comfortable being alone, those who have Ben Starr damaged and seek attachment, and those who choose partners with known flaws. He encourages listeners to reflect on their own strategies for coping with relationship challenges and the importance of maintaining emotional connections.

Greed and Insatiability April 27, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of greed and its insatiable nature, discussing how societal values and personal experiences shape our desires. He delves into the psychological aspects of greed, examining its impact on happiness and relationships. Through various examples, including the stock market and personal anecdotes, Armand invites listeners to reflect on their own experiences with greed. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the difference between healthy desires and destructive greed, encouraging a conversation about the balance between personal fulfillment and the well-being of others.

Acedia and Me April 20, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Kathleen Norris

In this episode, Kathleen Norris discusses the concept of acedia, a state of restlessness and boredom that can lead to emotional numbness and detachment from life. She explores its historical roots in monastic literature and its relevance in modern society, particularly in the context of caregiving and personal relationships. Norris shares her personal experiences with acedia, highlighting the importance of community and connection in overcoming this condition. The conversation touches on the differences between acedia and depression, emphasizing the need for individuals to engage with their surroundings and find meaning in their lives.

Undervalued Self April 8, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Elaine Aron

In this episode, Armand DiMele speaks with Dr. Elaine Aron, author of ‘The Undervalued Self.’ They explore the concept of self-worth and how individuals often undervalue themselves due to social hierarchies and comparisons. Dr. Aron discusses the importance of recognizing the difference between ranking and linking in relationships, emphasizing that true self-esteem comes from loving connections rather than societal standings. The conversation delves into the psychological impacts of feeling inadequate and the role of attachment in shaping our self-perception. Listeners are encouraged to foster linking relationships to combat feelings of undervaluation.

Covert Brutality and Passive-Aggressive Behavior March 2, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the concept of covert brutality, particularly focusing on passive-aggressive behavior. He explains how this subtle form of abuse can manifest in relationships, often disguised as normal or caring actions. Armand highlights the characteristics of passive-aggressive individuals, including procrastination, forgetfulness, and ambiguity, and how these behaviors can lead to confusion and frustration in interpersonal dynamics. He encourages listeners to recognize these patterns and consider the emotional impact they have on both the passive-aggressive person and those around them.

Abandonment Rage February 2, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie D'Ambra

In this episode, Armand DiMele delves into the complex emotions surrounding love and abandonment, particularly focusing on the phenomenon of abandonment rage. He discusses how feelings of abandonment can lead to intense emotional reactions, including depression and rage, and explores the psychological implications of these feelings. The conversation includes insights on the chemistry of love, the impact of loss, and the ways individuals cope with the end of relationships. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own experiences with love and loss, and how these emotions manifest in their lives.

Haiti and Gestalt Therapy January 13, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

In this episode, Armand DiMele reflects on the resilience of the Haitian people in the face of adversity, particularly following devastating earthquakes. He emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing ‘unfinished business’ in our lives through Gestalt therapy, which encourages individuals to take ownership of their feelings and experiences. Armand discusses various psychological concepts, including retroflexion, deflection, and projection, and how they manifest in our relationships. He encourages listeners to communicate from a place of vulnerability and self-awareness, rather than blame. The episode also touches on the significance of personal growth and the impact of our past on present behaviors.

Irritability and Relationships December 17, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie D'Ambra

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the phenomenon of irritability in relationships, discussing how love can turn into disregard over time. He examines the hormonal influences, such as prolactin and testosterone, that contribute to feelings of irritability and lack of compassion towards loved ones. Armand shares personal anecdotes and insights into how couples can navigate these challenges, emphasizing the importance of communication and self-awareness. The conversation highlights the need for understanding the underlying causes of irritability and the impact it has on relationships, encouraging listeners to seek connection and compassion despite the struggles.

Addiction and the Brain December 15, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Hal Urschel

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the complexities of addiction with Dr. Hal Urschel, author of ‘Healing the Addicted Brain.’ They explore the physical effects of addiction on the brain, the importance of comprehensive treatment approaches, and the role of medications like suboxone and vivitrol in recovery. Dr. Urschel emphasizes that addiction is a chronic disease that requires long-term management, similar to other chronic illnesses. The conversation also touches on the misconceptions surrounding various substances, including alcohol and marijuana, and the need for a more nuanced understanding of addiction.

Happiness and Resistance December 1, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Sherri Siegel

In this episode, Armand DiMele and Sherri Siegel explore the complex nature of happiness and the psychological resistance that often hinders personal growth. They discuss the myriad of self-help resources available on happiness, the prevalence of depression, and the significant financial investments people make in search of joy. The conversation delves into the concept of the ‘engineer’ within us, which protects us from change and the unknown. Through dialogue and acceptance, the hosts encourage listeners to confront their resistance and embrace the journey towards a more fulfilling life.