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Finding Balance in Relationships April 1, 2008

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the delicate balance between individuality (‘me’) and togetherness (‘we’) in relationships. He discusses the importance of maintaining one’s identity while fostering a connection with a partner. Through various examples and insights, he highlights how losing oneself in a relationship can lead to feelings of desperation and isolation. The conversation emphasizes the need for autonomy within partnerships and encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences and the dynamics of their relationships. Armand invites callers to share their thoughts and challenges regarding this balance.

Eliot Spitzer and the Pressure of Power March 11, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Social Dynamics and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the recent scandal involving former New York Governor Eliot Spitzer, who allegedly violated the Mann Act by transporting a sex worker across state lines. DeMille explores the psychological pressures faced by politicians and how these pressures can lead to self-destructive behavior. He reflects on the complexities of power, infidelity, and public judgment, encouraging listeners to consider the broader implications of Spitzer’s actions. The conversation also touches on societal attitudes toward infidelity and the media’s role in shaping public perception.

Understanding Love and Neediness March 4, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of love and the often painful nature of neediness in relationships. He discusses how men and women experience love differently, with men typically feeling a sense of need before securing a partner, while women often feel it afterward. DeMille delves into the idea that love can sometimes feel like an addiction, leading individuals to chase after unavailable partners. He emphasizes the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster healthier relationships and avoid the pitfalls of desperation and neediness.

Eight Phases of Love and Loving Relationships March 1, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Love, Relationships, and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores his philosophy on love, detailing the eight significant phases of romantic relationships. He discusses the initial honeymoon phase, where passion and chemistry dominate, followed by the reality testing phase, where partners begin to see each other more clearly. As relationships evolve, they face challenges such as the ‘seven-year itch’ and the need for security and acceptance. Dimele emphasizes the importance of communication and understanding in navigating these phases, ultimately leading to a deep, lasting connection. He invites listeners to reflect on their own experiences with love and relationships.

Making Excuses January 24, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Philosophy and Personal Growth

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the pervasive habit of making excuses and its impact on personal responsibility and growth. He explores the origins of excuses, tracing them back to childhood and societal influences, while emphasizing the importance of owning one’s actions. Through anecdotes and examples, Armand illustrates how excuses can hinder success and self-improvement. He encourages listeners to recognize their choices, embrace responsibility, and cultivate a mindset that fosters accountability. The episode concludes with practical advice on overcoming the tendency to make excuses and building a more fulfilling life.

Intimacy and Connection January 17, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of intimacy and connection in relationships. He addresses common questions about how close is too close and the nature of real intimacy. Drawing on personal anecdotes and psychological insights, he discusses the impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships, the fear of abandonment, and the importance of being genuine in emotional connections. Armand emphasizes the need for open communication and understanding in fostering intimacy, while also acknowledging the challenges that arise from past traumas. The episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences and to seek deeper connections with others.

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence December 6, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Esther Perel

Category: Intimacy and Relationship Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele engages with renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel, exploring the complexities of desire, intimacy, and infidelity across different cultures. They discuss how societal norms shape sexual relationships, the impact of parenthood on eroticism, and the importance of maintaining desire in long-term partnerships. Perel emphasizes that desire is often rooted in absence and longing, and that couples must navigate the balance between emotional connection and sexual attraction. The conversation delves into the nuances of masculinity and femininity, revealing how modern relationships can thrive through understanding and communication.

Curiosity and Self-Discovery November 29, 2007

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Philosophy and Personal Growth

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the importance of self-awareness and understanding what we don’t know about ourselves. He discusses how many people go through life faking knowledge and avoiding the deeper questions about their emotions, relationships, and personal growth. Through various anecdotes and examples, he encourages listeners to embrace curiosity and seek answers to their questions, particularly regarding their own minds and bodies. The conversation emphasizes the need for individuals to take responsibility for their learning and understanding, rather than relying solely on others for guidance.

Denial and Its Impact on Life November 28, 2007

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Psychological Challenges and Growth

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the psychological phenomenon of denial and its pervasive impact on various aspects of life, including relationships, addiction, and personal responsibility. He discusses different forms of denial, such as denial of fact, responsibility, and impact, and how they manifest in everyday situations. Through engaging examples and anecdotes, Armand highlights the importance of recognizing denial in oneself and others, emphasizing that understanding this defense mechanism is crucial for personal growth and healing. The episode also touches on the societal acceptance of denial and its consequences.

Fear and Its Associations November 15, 2007

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional and Mental Health

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex relationship between fear and personal experiences, particularly focusing on odontophobia, the fear of dentists. He discusses how childhood experiences and parental relationships can shape our fears and aversions. Through engaging anecdotes and psychological insights, he encourages listeners to examine their own fears, understand their origins, and consider ways to recondition their responses. The conversation highlights the importance of addressing fears openly and the potential for positive experiences to reshape our perceptions.