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Expectations and Unveiling the Real Self October 1, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the dynamics of relationships and how people often unveil their true selves over time. He discusses the common experience of disappointment when partners change from their initial presentation, suggesting that what we perceive as change is often an unveiling of deeper aspects of their personalities. Through various examples, he illustrates how our needs and expectations can shape our perceptions of others, leading to misunderstandings. Armand encourages listeners to embrace the complexities of human nature and to recognize that both strength and vulnerability coexist within us all.

Finding Balance in Relationships April 1, 2008

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the delicate balance between individuality (‘me’) and togetherness (‘we’) in relationships. He discusses the importance of maintaining one’s identity while fostering a connection with a partner. Through various examples and insights, he highlights how losing oneself in a relationship can lead to feelings of desperation and isolation. The conversation emphasizes the need for autonomy within partnerships and encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences and the dynamics of their relationships. Armand invites callers to share their thoughts and challenges regarding this balance.

Understanding Love and Neediness March 4, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of love and the often painful nature of neediness in relationships. He discusses how men and women experience love differently, with men typically feeling a sense of need before securing a partner, while women often feel it afterward. DeMille delves into the idea that love can sometimes feel like an addiction, leading individuals to chase after unavailable partners. He emphasizes the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster healthier relationships and avoid the pitfalls of desperation and neediness.

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence December 6, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Esther Perel

Category: Intimacy and Relationship Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele engages with renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel, exploring the complexities of desire, intimacy, and infidelity across different cultures. They discuss how societal norms shape sexual relationships, the impact of parenthood on eroticism, and the importance of maintaining desire in long-term partnerships. Perel emphasizes that desire is often rooted in absence and longing, and that couples must navigate the balance between emotional connection and sexual attraction. The conversation delves into the nuances of masculinity and femininity, revealing how modern relationships can thrive through understanding and communication.

Sexuality and Desire November 21, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Esther Perel

Category: Intimacy and Relationship Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele speaks with renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel about the complexities of sexuality and desire in relationships. They discuss the interplay between intimacy and eroticism, the impact of societal norms on sexual fulfillment, and the importance of maintaining desire through novelty and playfulness. Perel emphasizes that desire often thrives on uncertainty and that couples should actively negotiate their boundaries and expectations regarding monogamy. The conversation also touches on the significance of privacy in sexual relationships and the need for open communication about fantasies and desires.

Marital Arguments and Health October 2, 2007

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the impact of marital arguments on health, particularly focusing on the differences between men and women. He explores the concept of self-silencing, where individuals suppress their feelings during conflicts, and how this can lead to serious health issues, especially for women. The discussion highlights the importance of expressing emotions and the potential dangers of unresolved anger. DeMille emphasizes that while arguments are a natural part of relationships, the way they are handled can significantly affect both emotional well-being and physical health. He encourages listeners to communicate openly and seek therapy if needed.

Affairs, Relationships, and Healing May 29, 2007

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the complexities of infidelity in relationships, addressing the emotional turmoil that arises when one partner discovers the other has cheated. He explores the statistics surrounding affairs, the psychological impact on both partners, and the societal factors that contribute to infidelity. DeMille emphasizes the importance of understanding the dynamics of jealousy, betrayal, and the potential for healing after such a traumatic experience. He encourages listeners to seek support and to focus on personal growth, rather than demanding details or placing blame. The episode serves as a guide for navigating the difficult terrain of relationships affected by infidelity.

Valentine’s Day Insights on Love and Containment February 14, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Roberta Maria Atin

Category: Love, Relationships, and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele and Roberta Maria Ati explore the complexities of love, attachment, and the psychological need for containment in relationships. They discuss how childhood experiences shape our adult relationships and the importance of balance between closeness and independence. The conversation delves into the biochemical aspects of love, particularly the role of phenylethylamine (PEA) in fostering emotional connections. The hosts emphasize that separation can rejuvenate relationships, allowing partners to grow individually before reuniting. This Valentine’s Day, they encourage listeners to reflect on their own needs for containment and growth within their romantic connections.

Mating in Captivity February 8, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Esther Perel

Category: Intimacy and Relationship Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele engages with renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel to explore the complexities of intimacy, desire, and passion in modern relationships. They discuss the paradox of wanting closeness while also craving distance, the role of fantasy and teasing in enhancing desire, and the impact of societal expectations on sexual dynamics. Perel emphasizes the importance of negotiation in monogamy and the need for couples to maintain their individual erotic identities. The conversation delves into the psychological and biological factors influencing sexual attraction and the significance of privacy in relationships.

Exploring the Masculine and Feminine Sides of Men August 17, 2006

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Masculinity and Emotional Growth

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the duality of masculine and feminine traits within men, emphasizing that all men possess both sides. He explores how societal expectations often pressure men to suppress their sensitivity, leading to an imbalance in their relationships. Armand explains that men who deny their feminine side may find themselves attracted to women who embody those traits. He also addresses how this dynamic plays out in various relationships, including the search for a partner who complements one’s missing qualities. The conversation encourages listeners to embrace their full selves and recognize the importance of both masculine and feminine energies in their lives.