Keyword: conflict resolution

Tolerance January 4, 2012

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Linda Vanella

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the concept of tolerance, exploring its definitions, implications, and the role it plays in our relationships and society. Joined by guest Linda Vanella Vanella Vanella, they delve into how tolerance can be both a personal and societal challenge, emphasizing the importance of understanding and accepting differing opinions and behaviors. The conversation touches on the balance between tolerance and setting boundaries, the impact of upbringing on our capacity for tolerance, and how self-acceptance is crucial for fostering tolerance towards others. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own levels of tolerance and the factors that influence it.

Love is the Grease on the Gears of Life December 27, 2011

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Linda Vanella, Michael Jessen

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the essential role of love in our lives, likening it to grease that keeps the gears of life moving smoothly. He discusses how love, in its various forms—be it romantic, familial, or platonic—can rejuvenate our spirits and keep us engaged in life. Armand shares insights on the dynamics of relationships, the challenges of maintaining love over time, and how the traits that initially attract us to partners can later become sources of frustration. With guests Linda Vanella Vanella Vanella and Michael Jessen, he delves into the complexities of love and relationships, emphasizing the importance of communication and understanding in overcoming disillusionment.

Triangulation in Family Dynamics December 29, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of triangulation within family dynamics, particularly how children often become caught between parental conflicts. He discusses the psychological implications of this behavior, including the roles of good and bad parents, and how these dynamics can affect adult relationships. Through listener calls, the conversation delves into personal experiences of triangulation, the challenges of familial loyalty, and the importance of recognizing one’s own role in these patterns. Armand emphasizes the need for awareness and self-reflection to break free from these cycles.

Discernment and Relationships December 28, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of discernment in relationships and the challenges of understanding what is truly going on beneath the surface. He discusses how individuals often misinterpret their partners’ actions and emotions, leading to misunderstandings and conflicts. Through anecdotes and insights, Armand emphasizes the importance of clear communication and self-awareness in navigating relationships. He also highlights the tendency for people to project their needs and insecurities onto others, complicating the dynamics of love and trust. The episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own perceptions and to seek deeper connections with their partners.

My Mind is Not Always My Friend September 30, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie D'Ambra, Stephen Fogle

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the complexities of the mind and how it can sometimes work against us. Joined by guests Stephen Fogle and Stephanie D’Ambra, they explore themes of overreacting, the influence of past experiences on present behavior, and the importance of self-awareness in managing our thoughts. Fogle shares insights from his book, emphasizing that our minds can be both friends and foes, depending on how we interpret our experiences. The conversation delves into the chemistry of the brain, the role of the amygdala, and practical strategies for recognizing and addressing negative thought patterns.

Exploring Emotional Reactions September 29, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Elisa, Feli Stengel, Lauren Sykes, Marcus, Thelma Wingate

In this episode, Armand DiMele delves into the complexities of emotional reactions, particularly focusing on irrationality and over-emotionality in relationships. He discusses how these reactions can manifest in various forms, such as fear, anger, and sadness, and how they can impact interpersonal dynamics. Through anecdotes and insights, Armand emphasizes the importance of understanding these emotional responses and their biological underpinnings, particularly the role of the amygdala. He also highlights the societal fascination with emotional extremes, especially in media, and encourages listeners to seek calm and rationality amidst emotional turmoil.

Jealousy and Introspection September 22, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex emotions surrounding jealousy and the importance of introspection in understanding our reactions. He discusses the biological imperatives that drive human behavior and how they can lead to primitive responses like jealousy. Through various examples and hypothetical scenarios, Armand emphasizes the need to question our feelings and reactions rather than simply blaming others. The episode encourages listeners to develop self-awareness and to seek deeper understanding in their relationships, highlighting the role of introspection in fostering healthier connections.

Understanding Paralysis of the Mind and Brain July 21, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Michael Grove, Lauren Sykes, Sherri Siegel

In this episode, Sherri Siegel, along with guest Dr. Michael Grove and research assistant Lauren Sykes, explores the complex phenomena of paralysis, both mental and physical. They discuss various forms of psychological paralysis, including writer’s block, perfectionism, and executive dysfunction. The conversation delves into how these conditions manifest, their impact on individuals, and strategies for overcoming them. Listeners are encouraged to recognize their own experiences with paralysis and to understand the importance of movement—both emotional and physical—in leading fulfilling lives.

Surviving Relationships and Exit Strategies April 29, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the often overlooked ‘flight’ reaction in relationships, contrasting it with the more commonly discussed ‘fight or flight’ response. He delves into how individuals prepare exit strategies in their relationships, whether consciously or subconsciously, and discusses the psychological mechanisms behind these behaviors. Armand categorizes people into three types based on their relationship dynamics: those who are comfortable being alone, those who have Ben Starr damaged and seek attachment, and those who choose partners with known flaws. He encourages listeners to reflect on their own strategies for coping with relationship challenges and the importance of maintaining emotional connections.

Covert Brutality and Passive-Aggressive Behavior March 2, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the concept of covert brutality, particularly focusing on passive-aggressive behavior. He explains how this subtle form of abuse can manifest in relationships, often disguised as normal or caring actions. Armand highlights the characteristics of passive-aggressive individuals, including procrastination, forgetfulness, and ambiguity, and how these behaviors can lead to confusion and frustration in interpersonal dynamics. He encourages listeners to recognize these patterns and consider the emotional impact they have on both the passive-aggressive person and those around them.