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Born to be Good: The Science of a Meaningful Life April 8, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dacher Keltner

Category: Personal Growth and Awareness

In this episode, host Armand DiMele engages with Dr. Dacher Keltner, author of ‘Born to be Good: The Science of a Meaningful Life.’ They explore the concept of a meaningful life through the lens of Eastern philosophy and positive emotions. Dr. Keltner discusses the importance of emotions like compassion, gratitude, and reverence in fostering a sense of community and connection. The conversation delves into how our interactions, including laughter and touch, can bring out the best in others, and how understanding these dynamics can lead to healthier relationships in both personal and professional contexts.

Celebrations and the Primitive Self March 18, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Bernie Starr, Claudia Fox, Deborah King, Deidre Middleston Shide, Eric Morgan, Jeremy Spiegel, Lillian Gonzalez

Category: Personal Growth and Identity

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of celebrations and our connection to the primitive self. He discusses the allure of primitive instincts, such as dance, passion, and the need for connection, contrasting them with modern societal expectations. DeMille delves into the balance between intellect and instinct, emphasizing the importance of emotions and instincts in our lives. He also touches on the impact of hormones on our behaviors and relationships, urging listeners to understand their instincts while navigating modern life. The discussion highlights the duality of human nature, exploring both the Eros and Thanatos instincts, and encourages self-awareness and evolution.

Procrastination Nation October 14, 2008

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Gloria Aronson

Category: Personal Growth and Well-being

In this episode, host Armand DiMele interviews Gloria Aronson, a family therapist and author, about the nature of procrastination and its underlying causes. They discuss how fear and false beliefs drive procrastinators, including the fear of failure and the stigma surrounding success. Gloria shares insights from her book, ‘Procrastination Nation,’ and emphasizes the importance of understanding the emotional and psychological roots of procrastination. The conversation explores how early childhood experiences shape our decision-making and the role of compassion in supporting those who struggle with procrastination.

Paranoia April 10, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional and Mental Health

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex topic of paranoia, discussing its prevalence and various forms, including persecutory, ambitious, and amatory paranoia. He explains how paranoia can manifest in individuals, often stemming from feelings of insignificance or fear. The episode delves into the psychological mechanisms behind paranoia, highlighting the difference between vigilance and paranoia, and offers insights into recognizing and addressing these behaviors. Armand emphasizes the importance of understanding and compassion for those affected by paranoia, while also addressing the societal implications of living in a paranoid state.

Morality and Judgment March 12, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of morality and judgment, drawing on psychological theories from Freud and Eric Berne. He discusses the id, ego, and superego, and how these concepts influence our understanding of right and wrong. The conversation delves into moral dilemmas, societal judgments, and the impact of neuroscience on our ethical decisions. Through various examples, including controversial topics like war and personal relationships, Armand encourages listeners to reflect on their own moral beliefs and the influences that shape them.

Eight Phases of Love and Loving Relationships March 1, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Love, Relationships, and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores his philosophy on love, detailing the eight significant phases of romantic relationships. He discusses the initial honeymoon phase, where passion and chemistry dominate, followed by the reality testing phase, where partners begin to see each other more clearly. As relationships evolve, they face challenges such as the ‘seven-year itch’ and the need for security and acceptance. Dimele emphasizes the importance of communication and understanding in navigating these phases, ultimately leading to a deep, lasting connection. He invites listeners to reflect on their own experiences with love and relationships.

Noble Self and Positive Intentions December 13, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie Roth

Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, host Armand DiMele speaks with therapist Stephanie Roth about the concept of the ‘noble self’—the inner hero within each individual. They explore how focusing on positive intentions behind seemingly dysfunctional behaviors can lead to personal growth and understanding. Roth emphasizes the importance of uncovering the noble self in various situations, including overspending, addiction, and even infidelity, by recognizing the underlying motivations and desires that drive these actions. The conversation encourages listeners to approach their challenges with compassion and a focus on wellness rather than judgment.

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence December 6, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Esther Perel

Category: Intimacy and Relationship Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele engages with renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel, exploring the complexities of desire, intimacy, and infidelity across different cultures. They discuss how societal norms shape sexual relationships, the impact of parenthood on eroticism, and the importance of maintaining desire in long-term partnerships. Perel emphasizes that desire is often rooted in absence and longing, and that couples must navigate the balance between emotional connection and sexual attraction. The conversation delves into the nuances of masculinity and femininity, revealing how modern relationships can thrive through understanding and communication.

Four Day Win November 20, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Martha Beck

Category: Personal Growth and Well-being

In this episode, host Armand DiMele interviews Dr. Martha Beck, author of ‘The Four Day Win.’ They discuss innovative approaches to weight loss and personal change, emphasizing the importance of compassion towards oneself. Dr. Beck shares insights on the psychological dynamics between the ‘dictator’ and ‘wild child’ within us, illustrating how self-criticism can hinder progress. The conversation highlights the significance of small, manageable changes sustained over four days to create lasting behavioral shifts. By fostering a nurturing mindset, individuals can overcome resistance and achieve their goals, whether related to weight loss or other life challenges.

Stealing and Deception August 23, 2007

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex themes of stealing and deception, examining their prevalence in human behavior and nature. He discusses how deception is a natural part of life, drawing parallels between animal behavior and human actions. Through anecdotes and examples, he highlights the moral dilemmas surrounding theft, whether it’s taking physical items or emotional connections. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own experiences with stealing and the motivations behind such actions, ultimately fostering a deeper understanding of human nature.