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Masks We Wear When Wounded April 22, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Anne Marganow, Claudia Fox, Diane, Matilda, Susie

Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of vulnerability and the masks we wear to hide our wounds. He discusses how individuals often project strength and confidence, especially during job searches or family gatherings, despite feeling hurt inside. Through anecdotes and a poignant poem, Armand invites listeners to reflect on the emotional toll of pretending to be okay. He emphasizes the importance of authenticity and the burden of maintaining a facade, encouraging listeners to embrace their true selves and seek genuine connections. The episode serves as a reminder that vulnerability can lead to deeper relationships and personal growth.

Celebrations and the Primitive Self March 18, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Bernie Starr, Claudia Fox, Deborah King, Deidre Middleston Shide, Eric Morgan, Jeremy Spiegel, Lillian Gonzalez

Category: Personal Growth and Identity

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of celebrations and our connection to the primitive self. He discusses the allure of primitive instincts, such as dance, passion, and the need for connection, contrasting them with modern societal expectations. DeMille delves into the balance between intellect and instinct, emphasizing the importance of emotions and instincts in our lives. He also touches on the impact of hormones on our behaviors and relationships, urging listeners to understand their instincts while navigating modern life. The discussion highlights the duality of human nature, exploring both the Eros and Thanatos instincts, and encourages self-awareness and evolution.

Relationships and Their Challenges March 12, 2009

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of romantic relationships, particularly how they evolve over time, especially after having children. He discusses the challenges couples face in maintaining their connection and the importance of understanding one’s own needs. Through anecdotes and listener calls, Armand emphasizes the significance of self-awareness and growth in relationships, urging individuals to prioritize their emotional well-being while navigating the dynamics of love and partnership.

Abnormality and Normalcy June 24, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Personal Growth and Identity

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concepts of abnormality and normalcy, particularly in the context of human behavior and societal expectations. He discusses how perceptions of what is ‘normal’ can vary greatly, influenced by cultural norms and individual experiences. The conversation delves into topics such as paraphilias, maladaptivity, and the pressures of conforming to societal standards. Armand encourages listeners to reflect on their own definitions of normalcy and the impact of secrets and personal struggles on their sense of self. The episode invites callers to share their thoughts and experiences, fostering a dialogue about the complexities of human behavior.

Paranoia April 10, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional and Mental Health

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex topic of paranoia, discussing its prevalence and various forms, including persecutory, ambitious, and amatory paranoia. He explains how paranoia can manifest in individuals, often stemming from feelings of insignificance or fear. The episode delves into the psychological mechanisms behind paranoia, highlighting the difference between vigilance and paranoia, and offers insights into recognizing and addressing these behaviors. Armand emphasizes the importance of understanding and compassion for those affected by paranoia, while also addressing the societal implications of living in a paranoid state.

Sandwich Generation April 8, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Generational and Age Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the challenges faced by the sandwich generation, a term describing adults who care for both their children and aging parents. He highlights the emotional and physical toll this dual responsibility can take, especially on women, who make up a significant portion of this demographic. The conversation delves into the complexities of modern family dynamics, including the prolonged dependence of young adults on their parents and the increased longevity of older generations, which often leads to heightened caregiving demands. Armand encourages listeners to seek support and prioritize their own well-being amidst these challenges.

Finding Balance in Relationships April 1, 2008

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the delicate balance between individuality (‘me’) and togetherness (‘we’) in relationships. He discusses the importance of maintaining one’s identity while fostering a connection with a partner. Through various examples and insights, he highlights how losing oneself in a relationship can lead to feelings of desperation and isolation. The conversation emphasizes the need for autonomy within partnerships and encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences and the dynamics of their relationships. Armand invites callers to share their thoughts and challenges regarding this balance.

Understanding the Intensely Private Person March 25, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Human Behavior Insights

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of intensely private individuals, particularly children, who often retreat into their own worlds to avoid emotional overwhelm. He discusses how societal pressures and family dynamics can contribute to this intense privacy, leading to a lack of close relationships and emotional detachment. Armand highlights the importance of recognizing these traits in oneself and others, emphasizing that while privacy can foster creativity, it can also lead to social phobia and loneliness. The episode encourages listeners to understand and support those who may struggle with intense privacy.

Depression in the Elderly January 30, 2008

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Kent Robertshaw

Category: Mind and Mood Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele and Kent Robertshaw discuss the often-overlooked issue of depression among the elderly. They emphasize that depression is not a normal part of aging and highlight the importance of recognizing its symptoms, which can manifest as physical complaints. The conversation covers the stigma surrounding mental health in older adults, the impact of loss and isolation, and the significance of empathy in treatment. They also explore the concept of pseudo-dementia, where depression mimics cognitive decline, and the need for early intervention to improve quality of life. The episode encourages listeners to be attentive to the emotional signs of depression in their loved ones.

Homesickness and Nostalgia November 6, 2007

Category: Gratitude and Mindfulness

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the themes of homesickness and nostalgia, delving into why some people yearn for the past while others move forward. He reflects on his experiences in New York City, discussing the emotional ties to memories and the impact of significant figures from the past. Through listener calls, he examines personal connections to nostalgia, from music to cultural experiences, and how these elements shape our sense of belonging. The conversation highlights the importance of connection in a fast-paced world and the longing for familiarity and comfort.