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Losing Control April 11, 2012

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Linda Vanella

Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the complexities of losing control, particularly in the context of anger and compulsive behaviors. He explores how various factors, including alcohol, emotional wounds, and hormonal influences, can lead to moments of rage or impulsivity. The conversation delves into the psychological underpinnings of these reactions and the importance of honesty in expressing emotions. Armand emphasizes that losing control is not a normal response and encourages listeners to understand the triggers behind their feelings. The episode also addresses the societal pressures that can inhibit self-expression and the need for healthy coping mechanisms.

Tolerance January 4, 2012

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Linda Vanella

Category: Social Dynamics and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the concept of tolerance, exploring its definitions, implications, and the role it plays in our relationships and society. Joined by guest Linda Vanella Vanella Vanella, they delve into how tolerance can be both a personal and societal challenge, emphasizing the importance of understanding and accepting differing opinions and behaviors. The conversation touches on the balance between tolerance and setting boundaries, the impact of upbringing on our capacity for tolerance, and how self-acceptance is crucial for fostering tolerance towards others. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own levels of tolerance and the factors that influence it.

Exploring Trust December 14, 2011

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Linda Vanella

Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele delves into the concept of trust, discussing its significance and the complexities surrounding it. He shares insights from a recent Gallup poll on the trustworthiness of various professions, revealing that nurses and pharmacists rank highest in public trust, while members of Congress and lobbyists rank lowest. Armand emphasizes the importance of healthy skepticism and self-awareness in relationships, suggesting that true love can exist without absolute trust. He encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences with trust and the impact of past relationships on their current perceptions. The episode features engaging discussions with guest Linda Vanella Vanella Vidal, who shares her perspectives on self-trust and relationships.

Fear of Close Relationships October 4, 2011

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the reasons behind people’s fear of forming close relationships. He discusses how past experiences and childhood conditioning can lead to a reluctance to love and connect with others. Armand emphasizes the importance of recognizing these fears and understanding that love should not be equated with pain or control. He encourages listeners to confront their fears and to seek healthier, more fulfilling relationships. The episode also touches on the dynamics of control in relationships and the role of victimhood in emotional connections.

Rebellion September 21, 2011

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Alex, Lauren Sykes, Linda Vanella, Ramey

Category: Psychological Challenges and Growth

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the theme of rebellion, discussing its importance in personal growth and development. He reflects on his childhood experiences and the concept of conformity, sharing anecdotes about adolescents’ struggles against authority. Joined by guests Alex and Ramey, they delve into their own experiences with rebellion, the pressures of school and work, and the significance of standing up for oneself. The conversation highlights how rebellion can manifest in various forms and the vital role it plays in shaping identity and independence.

Ben Starr Behind His Voices August 23, 2011

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Randy Kay

Category: Family and Relationship Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele speaks with Randy Kay, author of ‘Ben Starr Behind His Voices,’ about her journey as a mother navigating the complexities of her son’s schizophrenia. Randy shares her experiences of recognizing early warning signs, the challenges of diagnosis, and the emotional toll of parenting a child with mental illness. The conversation highlights the importance of education, support systems like NAMI, and the necessity of establishing boundaries while maintaining hope for recovery. Through her story, Randy offers insights into the struggles and triumphs of families dealing with mental health issues.

Family Secrets and Their Impact August 17, 2011

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Lauren Sykes, Linda Vanella

Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex nature of family secrets and their profound effects on relationships. He discusses how secrets can divide families, create misunderstandings, and freeze emotional development. The conversation highlights the importance of timing and context when revealing secrets, emphasizing that while some secrets can foster bonds, others can lead to lasting emotional scars. Armand shares insights from his experience as a therapist, illustrating the delicate balance between keeping and revealing secrets within families. The episode encourages listeners to consider the impact of secrets on their own lives and relationships.

Protecting Others and Ourselves August 10, 2011

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Joseph, Linda Vanella, Lynn, Tom Bond, Yvonne

Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex motivations behind the desire to protect others, often stemming from our own insecurities and fears. He discusses how individuals may attach themselves to those they feel compelled to protect, sometimes as a means of safeguarding their own emotional well-being. Through various anecdotes and examples, including relationships affected by addiction and mental health challenges, Armand encourages listeners to reflect on their protective instincts and the potential consequences of overextending themselves. The conversation delves into the Enneagram’s three instincts—self-preservation, social, and sexual—and how they influence our relationships and sense of safety.

Discernment and Relationships December 28, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of discernment in relationships and the challenges of understanding what is truly going on beneath the surface. He discusses how individuals often misinterpret their partners’ actions and emotions, leading to misunderstandings and conflicts. Through anecdotes and insights, Armand emphasizes the importance of clear communication and self-awareness in navigating relationships. He also highlights the tendency for people to project their needs and insecurities onto others, complicating the dynamics of love and trust. The episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own perceptions and to seek deeper connections with their partners.

Secrets We Keep December 7, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex nature of secrets we keep from ourselves, our families, and our partners. He discusses how societal norms and personal fears can lead to hidden truths that affect our relationships and emotional well-being. Through various examples, including secrets about sexuality and family dynamics, Armand emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing these hidden aspects of our lives. He encourages listeners to reflect on their own secrets and the impact they have on their lives and relationships.