Keyword: assertiveness

Ignoring People and Being Ignored August 16, 2011

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Lauren Sykes, Linda Vanella

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex dynamics of being ignored and the act of ignoring others. He discusses how these behaviors can stem from childhood experiences and societal expectations, with insights on passive-aggressive tendencies and the need for attention. Through various anecdotes and examples, including the challenges faced in medical settings and personal relationships, the conversation delves into the emotional impact of feeling invisible. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own experiences with being ignored and the importance of communication in relationships.

Submissiveness and Power Dynamics June 7, 2011

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Linda Vanella, Lorna Sykes

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the concepts of submissiveness and learned helplessness, exploring how these traits manifest in personal relationships and workplace dynamics. He contrasts the roles of ‘servers’ and ‘peacemakers,’ highlighting the psychological impacts of learned helplessness on health and social interactions. The conversation delves into the complexities of power dynamics, both in nature and human relationships, and emphasizes the importance of recognizing one’s own power to effect change. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their experiences with submissiveness and how it shapes their lives.

Understanding Paralysis of the Mind and Brain July 21, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Michael Grove, Lauren Sykes, Sherri Siegel

In this episode, Sherri Siegel, along with guest Dr. Michael Grove and research assistant Lauren Sykes, explores the complex phenomena of paralysis, both mental and physical. They discuss various forms of psychological paralysis, including writer’s block, perfectionism, and executive dysfunction. The conversation delves into how these conditions manifest, their impact on individuals, and strategies for overcoming them. Listeners are encouraged to recognize their own experiences with paralysis and to understand the importance of movement—both emotional and physical—in leading fulfilling lives.

Covert Brutality and Passive-Aggressive Behavior March 2, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the concept of covert brutality, particularly focusing on passive-aggressive behavior. He explains how this subtle form of abuse can manifest in relationships, often disguised as normal or caring actions. Armand highlights the characteristics of passive-aggressive individuals, including procrastination, forgetfulness, and ambiguity, and how these behaviors can lead to confusion and frustration in interpersonal dynamics. He encourages listeners to recognize these patterns and consider the emotional impact they have on both the passive-aggressive person and those around them.

Confrontation: A Double-Edged Sword July 1, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Sherri Siegel

In this episode, Armand DiMele and co-host Sherri Siegel explore the complexities of confrontation, discussing its cultural perceptions and the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior. They delve into the necessity of confrontation in addressing injustices while highlighting the importance of skillful communication. The conversation touches on the emotional triggers that can escalate conflicts and the significance of finding common ground in disagreements. Listeners are encouraged to approach confrontations with empathy and a focus on constructive outcomes, rather than destructive patterns. The episode also includes insights from callers sharing their personal experiences with confrontation.

Leadership Qualities and Personal Growth April 30, 2009

Host: Armand DiMele

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of leadership, discussing its qualities and the dynamics of power in various relationships. He reflects on the expectations we have of leaders and how our childhood experiences shape our understanding of authority. Armand emphasizes the importance of integrity, assertiveness, and the ability to adapt as key traits of effective leaders. He invites listeners to examine their own leadership styles and the impact they have on others, encouraging personal growth and self-awareness. The episode also features listener calls, highlighting personal stories and insights about leadership.

Communication Strategies for Fulfilling Relationships October 15, 2008

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: David B. Wolf

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the importance of effective communication in relationships, emphasizing the need for self-awareness and accountability. He explores the concept of transformative communication, which involves understanding oneself before engaging with others. The conversation highlights common roadblocks to effective communication, such as emotional charge and defensiveness, and offers strategies for creating a safe space for dialogue. The episode also touches on the significance of recognizing emotions and using ‘I’ statements to foster understanding. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their communication styles and consider how they can improve their interactions with loved ones.

New Strategies for Dealing with Verbal Abuse July 10, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses various strategies for dealing with verbal abuse in relationships. He explores natural responses to attack, such as running away, counterattacking, freezing, and adopting a ‘pet dog’ approach. Armand emphasizes the importance of understanding the underlying issues behind aggressive behavior and suggests facing the storm head-on rather than retreating or responding with anger. He encourages listeners to recognize the illness behind the rage and to maintain their presence during confrontations. The conversation also touches on the impact of childhood experiences on adult reactions to conflict.

Passive Aggressive Behavior July 2, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of passive aggressive behavior, a form of resistance often misunderstood. He defines passive aggression as a defense mechanism characterized by resentment, procrastination, and indirect hostility. Armand discusses its signs, such as chronic lateness and avoidance of responsibility, and contrasts it with other forms of aggression. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the underlying fears that drive passive aggressive behavior and encourages listeners to seek assertiveness instead. Through engaging examples and listener interactions, the episode sheds light on how to navigate relationships affected by passive aggression.

Dealing with Difficult People September 13, 2006

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Roberta Maria Antti

In this episode, Armand DiMele and Roberta Maria Antti explore the complexities of interacting with difficult individuals. They discuss various types of difficult people, including the angry, fearful, overly emotional, and passive-aggressive. The hosts emphasize the importance of recognizing both subjective and objective experiences when dealing with such individuals. They provide insights into understanding the underlying emotions that drive difficult behaviors and offer strategies for managing interactions effectively. By fostering self-awareness and empathy, listeners can navigate challenging relationships and improve their own emotional resilience.