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Oh No, He’s Just Like My Father August 8, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Sandra Reischus

Category: Family and Relationship Dynamics

In this episode, host Armand DiMele interviews author Sandra Reischus about her book, ‘Oh No, He’s Just Like My Father.’ They explore the unconscious patterns that lead individuals to replicate parental relationships in their romantic lives. Sandra discusses how childhood experiences shape adult relationship choices, often resulting in partners who mirror parental figures. The conversation delves into the complexities of these dynamics, the importance of self-awareness, and the potential for growth through therapy. Listeners are encouraged to recognize these patterns and seek healthier relationship dynamics.

Valentine’s Day Insights on Love and Containment February 14, 2007

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Roberta Maria Atin

Category: Love, Relationships, and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele and Roberta Maria Ati explore the complexities of love, attachment, and the psychological need for containment in relationships. They discuss how childhood experiences shape our adult relationships and the importance of balance between closeness and independence. The conversation delves into the biochemical aspects of love, particularly the role of phenylethylamine (PEA) in fostering emotional connections. The hosts emphasize that separation can rejuvenate relationships, allowing partners to grow individually before reuniting. This Valentine’s Day, they encourage listeners to reflect on their own needs for containment and growth within their romantic connections.

Ghosts in Our Lives August 15, 2006

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of ‘ghosts’—the memories and past relationships that linger in our lives. He discusses how these ghosts can manifest as feelings of regret, longing, or even anger, and how they affect our current relationships. Armand delves into the psychological implications of holding onto these memories and the emotional turmoil they can cause. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own ghosts and consider whether they want to keep them or let them go. The show invites personal stories and insights about the ghosts that haunt us.

Impulses and Their Impact April 12, 2006

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Roberta Maria Atti

Category: Social Dynamics and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele and Roberta Maria Atti delve into the complexities of impulse control, particularly in relation to childhood experiences. They explore how rough childhoods can lead to pathological adaptations, affecting emotional and cognitive development. The hosts discuss various forms of impulse control issues, including stealing, self-mutilation, and eating disorders, emphasizing that neglect and trauma can significantly impact one’s ability to manage impulses. Through engaging metaphors and scientific insights, they illustrate the critical connection between early experiences and later behaviors, aiming to foster understanding and empathy for those struggling with impulse control.

Doubting People January 4, 2006

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional and Social Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the psychology of doubters—individuals who live with suspicion and fear of losing everything. He discusses how childhood experiences shape their skepticism and the impact of lacking trust in themselves and others. DeMille highlights the paradox of doubters seeking security while simultaneously fearing intimacy and vulnerability. He emphasizes the importance of understanding and gently supporting these individuals, as they often yearn for connection but are terrified of being overwhelmed. The episode delves into the complexities of doubt, trust, and the human experience.

Radical Knowing: Understanding Consciousness Through Relationships December 21, 2005

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Christian De Quincey, Roberta Maria Atti

Category: Personal Growth and Identity

In this episode, Armand DiMele and Roberta Maria Atti engage in a profound discussion with Dr. Christian De Quincey about the nature of consciousness and the importance of relationships in defining who we are. They explore the continuum concept, the impact of societal changes on parenting, and the dichotomy between reason and feeling. Dr. De Quincey emphasizes that our identities are shaped by our relationships rather than our individualism, advocating for a return to instinctual and intuitive ways of knowing. The conversation delves into how modern culture has disrupted natural bonding processes and the implications for personal and collective well-being.

Exploring the Nature of Love Undated

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele delves into the complex nature of love, discussing how it varies between individuals and is influenced by personal experiences. He explores the differences in how men and women perceive love, the role of bonding, and the impact of fear and possessiveness on relationships. Through various anecdotes and listener calls, Demeule emphasizes that love is a feeling rather than a defined concept, shaped by our interactions and emotional needs. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding one’s own feelings and the dynamics of love in different contexts.

Relationships and Evolutionary Psychology Undated

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Love, Relationships, and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of modern relationships and how they have evolved over time. He discusses the impact of societal changes, chemical influences, and the evolution of human behavior on romance and courtship. Delving into evolutionary psychology, he examines how the dynamics of attraction and bonding have shifted, particularly in the context of modern challenges like hyperstimulation and the effects of technology. The conversation also touches on the neurochemistry of love and the various factors that contribute to romantic connections, highlighting the intricate interplay between biology and emotional experiences.

Chemistry of Love and Relationships Undated

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Barbara Jessen, Darlene, Demetrius, Jeremy Shockley, Monroe, Tommy Thompson

Category: Love, Relationships, and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the fascinating intersection of chemistry and human relationships, focusing on the bonding hormone oxytocin. He discusses how oxytocin influences feelings of love, trust, and connection, while also revealing its potential to alienate individuals from others outside their close relationships. Through engaging conversations with callers, Armand delves into personal experiences and the complexities of love, attachment, and the impact of familial bonds. The episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own relationships and the dynamics of emotional connections.

Walking 2.2 Miles in 102 Degree Weather Undated

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Albert Pesso, Diane Boyden Pesso, Ilana Rubenfeld, Portia Franklin

Category: Family and Relationship Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele shares a memorable experience from a conference at Princeton University where he was tasked with getting 2,000 attendees to walk 2.2 miles in scorching heat. He discusses the importance of childhood needs in adult relationships and introduces his guest, Portia Franklin, a psychotherapist specializing in psychomotor therapy. Together, they explore the five basic childhood needs: place, support, nurturance, protection, and loving limits, and how unmet needs can manifest in adult life. The conversation delves into the significance of emotional movement and the role of ideal parents in healing past wounds.