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Surviving Relationships and Exit Strategies April 29, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the often overlooked ‘flight’ reaction in relationships, contrasting it with the more commonly discussed ‘fight or flight’ response. He delves into how individuals prepare exit strategies in their relationships, whether consciously or subconsciously, and discusses the psychological mechanisms behind these behaviors. Armand categorizes people into three types based on their relationship dynamics: those who are comfortable being alone, those who have Ben Starr damaged and seek attachment, and those who choose partners with known flaws. He encourages listeners to reflect on their own strategies for coping with relationship challenges and the importance of maintaining emotional connections.

Sobriety and Being Present December 29, 2009

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Personal Growth and Awareness

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of sobriety beyond the traditional associations with alcohol and drugs. He delves into the idea that sobriety is about being present and fully engaged in the moment, free from distractions and attachments. Through discussions with a group of men, Armand reflects on what it means to truly be here now, encouraging listeners to consider how often they experience this state of clarity and connection. The conversation touches on the challenges of maintaining presence in a world filled with distractions and the importance of emotional honesty, including the role of tears in achieving a sober state of being.

When Love Dies December 22, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie D'Ambra

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of love and relationships, particularly what happens when love begins to fade over time. He discusses the natural progression of relationships, the impact of unmet needs, and the emotional turmoil that arises when partners feel disconnected. Through engaging anecdotes and listener interactions, Armand emphasizes the importance of communication, vulnerability, and mutual support in maintaining a healthy relationship. He also introduces various exercises aimed at rekindling intimacy and connection between partners, encouraging listeners to confront their instincts and work towards a deeper understanding of their relationships.

Bonding and Therapy July 23, 2009

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Love, Relationships, and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the complexities of bonding in therapy and relationships, emphasizing the importance of oxytocin in fostering connections. He explores why individuals may leave therapy prematurely, citing reasons such as anger towards the therapist, financial constraints, and a lack of perceived progress. DeMille highlights the significance of trust and emotional connection in therapeutic settings, arguing that effective therapy often hinges on the bond between therapist and client. He also touches on the biological aspects of bonding, including the roles of oxytocin and prolactin in human relationships, and how these hormones influence feelings of love and attachment.

Bitterness and Relationships June 18, 2009

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of bitterness and its impact on relationships. He discusses the American Psychiatric Association’s interest in ‘bitterness syndrome’ and examines how hormonal responses, particularly prolactin, can affect intimacy and connection between partners. Through various anecdotes and discussions with callers, he emphasizes the importance of understanding the biological and emotional factors that contribute to relationship challenges. Armand encourages listeners to fight for their relationships and to seek deeper connections, despite the societal and biological pressures that may lead to disconnection.

Navigating Relationships and Mental Health June 3, 2009

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Family and Relationship Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the complexities of relationships, particularly in the context of mental health and addiction. He explores the impact of parental relationships on children’s emotional development, the effects of frequent relocations on youth, and the challenges posed by depression within families. DeMille emphasizes the importance of communication and connection in relationships, especially when dealing with issues like addiction and mental health. He also highlights the need for parents to model healthy relationships for their children. The episode includes listener calls that delve into personal experiences and insights on these topics.

Symbols and Their Impact on Our Lives April 29, 2009

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Personal Growth and Identity

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of symbols and how they shape our perceptions and interactions. He discusses the significance of symbols in our lives, from authority figures to personal relationships, and how they can evoke strong emotions and reactions. Through various examples, including personal anecdotes and psychological insights, Armand invites listeners to reflect on the symbols they embody and encounter in their daily lives. The conversation also touches on the importance of understanding oneself and the impact of symbols on our relationships.

Exploring the Nature of Love October 28, 2008

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Ari Erwin, Dr. Bernard Starr, Helen Fisher, Lucy Brown

Category: Love, Relationships, and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele delves into the complexities of love, questioning whether it is merely an emotion or a chemical state. Drawing on research by anthropologist Helen Fisher, the discussion explores the biochemical and neurological underpinnings of romantic love, including the brain’s reward systems. The conversation touches on the challenges and joys of love, the risks involved, and how love evolves over time. Armand also reflects on personal experiences and the broader implications of love in human relationships.

Understanding Love and Neediness March 4, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of love and the often painful nature of neediness in relationships. He discusses how men and women experience love differently, with men typically feeling a sense of need before securing a partner, while women often feel it afterward. DeMille delves into the idea that love can sometimes feel like an addiction, leading individuals to chase after unavailable partners. He emphasizes the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster healthier relationships and avoid the pitfalls of desperation and neediness.

Hatred: An Exploration January 22, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Social Dynamics and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele delves into the complex emotion of hatred, exploring its roots and implications in our lives. He discusses how hatred differs from anger, emphasizing its deep-seated nature and the impact it has on relationships and self-perception. Through personal anecdotes and listener interactions, Armand encourages a candid examination of this often-taboo emotion, suggesting that understanding hatred can lead to personal growth and emotional healing. The episode also touches on the interplay between love and hatred, highlighting the importance of acknowledging and addressing these feelings.