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Mother’s Day Reflections May 4, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Gratitude and Mindfulness

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex emotions surrounding Mother’s Day, discussing the impact of maternal relationships on mental health. He shares insights from his experience training therapists and highlights the importance of addressing feelings towards mothers, whether they are alive or deceased. Through listener calls, the show delves into personal memories, the challenges of estrangement, and the bittersweet nature of celebrating motherhood. Armand encourages listeners to confront their feelings and engage in meaningful conversations about their relationships with their mothers.

Acedia and Me April 20, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Kathleen Norris

Category: Personal Growth and Awareness

In this episode, Kathleen Norris discusses the concept of acedia, a state of restlessness and boredom that can lead to emotional numbness and detachment from life. She explores its historical roots in monastic literature and its relevance in modern society, particularly in the context of caregiving and personal relationships. Norris shares her personal experiences with acedia, highlighting the importance of community and connection in overcoming this condition. The conversation touches on the differences between acedia and depression, emphasizing the need for individuals to engage with their surroundings and find meaning in their lives.

Undervalued Self April 8, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Elaine Aron

Category: Personal Growth and Identity

In this episode, Armand DiMele speaks with Dr. Elaine Aron, author of ‘The Undervalued Self.’ They explore the concept of self-worth and how individuals often undervalue themselves due to social hierarchies and comparisons. Dr. Aron discusses the importance of recognizing the difference between ranking and linking in relationships, emphasizing that true self-esteem comes from loving connections rather than societal standings. The conversation delves into the psychological impacts of feeling inadequate and the role of attachment in shaping our self-perception. Listeners are encouraged to foster linking relationships to combat feelings of undervaluation.

Kissing and Its Impact on Relationships March 11, 2010

Category: Love, Relationships, and Psychology

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the fascinating dynamics of kissing, discussing its hormonal effects and significance in romantic relationships. He delves into how kissing can influence sexual attraction through the exchange of pheromones and testosterone, as well as its role in emotional bonding via oxytocin and dopamine. The conversation touches on cultural differences in kissing practices and the psychological implications of intimacy. Listeners share personal experiences, highlighting the deep connections formed through kissing and the importance of maintaining this intimate act in relationships.

Abandonment Rage February 2, 2010

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie D'Ambra

Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele delves into the complex emotions surrounding love and abandonment, particularly focusing on the phenomenon of abandonment rage. He discusses how feelings of abandonment can lead to intense emotional reactions, including depression and rage, and explores the psychological implications of these feelings. The conversation includes insights on the chemistry of love, the impact of loss, and the ways individuals cope with the end of relationships. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own experiences with love and loss, and how these emotions manifest in their lives.

Haiti and Gestalt Therapy January 13, 2010

Host: Armand DiMele

Category: Psychological Challenges and Growth

In this episode, Armand DiMele reflects on the resilience of the Haitian people in the face of adversity, particularly following devastating earthquakes. He emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing ‘unfinished business’ in our lives through Gestalt therapy, which encourages individuals to take ownership of their feelings and experiences. Armand discusses various psychological concepts, including retroflexion, deflection, and projection, and how they manifest in our relationships. He encourages listeners to communicate from a place of vulnerability and self-awareness, rather than blame. The episode also touches on the significance of personal growth and the impact of our past on present behaviors.

End of Year Reflections December 31, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Akilah, Alex, Debbie, Joanne, Juana, Lauren Sykes, Lynn, Tony Thomas

Category: Gratitude and Mindfulness

In this episode, Armand DiMele engages listeners in a reflective survey about their experiences in 2009. He invites callers to share their thoughts on the past year, discussing both positive and negative experiences. From personal triumphs to challenges, the callers express a range of emotions, highlighting themes of love, loss, health struggles, and the impact of political changes. The conversation underscores the importance of community and connection as individuals navigate their journeys toward a more positive mindset.

Exploring Relationships and Aging December 23, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Dr. Bernard Starr

Category: Generational and Age Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the complexities of love, relationships, and aging with Dr. Bernard Starr. They delve into the dynamics of intimacy, the perception of older individuals as resources, and the emotional challenges that arise when relationships falter. The conversation highlights the importance of communication and understanding in maintaining connections as people age, while also addressing societal stereotypes surrounding older adults. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own relationships and the ways in which aging impacts their lives and interactions.

When Love Dies December 22, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie D'Ambra

Category: Emotional Communication Dynamics

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of love and relationships, particularly what happens when love begins to fade over time. He discusses the natural progression of relationships, the impact of unmet needs, and the emotional turmoil that arises when partners feel disconnected. Through engaging anecdotes and listener interactions, Armand emphasizes the importance of communication, vulnerability, and mutual support in maintaining a healthy relationship. He also introduces various exercises aimed at rekindling intimacy and connection between partners, encouraging listeners to confront their instincts and work towards a deeper understanding of their relationships.

Irritability and Relationships December 17, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Stephanie D'Ambra

Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the phenomenon of irritability in relationships, discussing how love can turn into disregard over time. He examines the hormonal influences, such as prolactin and testosterone, that contribute to feelings of irritability and lack of compassion towards loved ones. Armand shares personal anecdotes and insights into how couples can navigate these challenges, emphasizing the importance of communication and self-awareness. The conversation highlights the need for understanding the underlying causes of irritability and the impact it has on relationships, encouraging listeners to seek connection and compassion despite the struggles.