The Positive Mind

Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

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Confrontation: A Double-Edged Sword July 1, 2009

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Sherri Siegel
Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele and co-host Sherri Siegel explore the complexities of confrontation, discussing its cultural perceptions and the impact of childhood experiences on adult behavior. They delve into the necessity of confrontation in addressing injustices while highlighting the importance of skillful communication. The conversation touches on the emotional triggers that can escalate conflicts and the significance of finding common ground in disagreements. Listeners are encouraged to approach confrontations with empathy and a focus on constructive outcomes, rather than destructive patterns. The episode also includes insights from callers sharing their personal experiences with confrontation.

New Strategies for Dealing with Verbal Abuse July 10, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses various strategies for dealing with verbal abuse in relationships. He explores natural responses to attack, such as running away, counterattacking, freezing, and adopting a ‘pet dog’ approach. Armand emphasizes the importance of understanding the underlying issues behind aggressive behavior and suggests facing the storm head-on rather than retreating or responding with anger. He encourages listeners to recognize the illness behind the rage and to maintain their presence during confrontations. The conversation also touches on the impact of childhood experiences on adult reactions to conflict.

Passive Aggressive Behavior July 2, 2008

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complexities of passive aggressive behavior, a form of resistance often misunderstood. He defines passive aggression as a defense mechanism characterized by resentment, procrastination, and indirect hostility. Armand discusses its signs, such as chronic lateness and avoidance of responsibility, and contrasts it with other forms of aggression. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the underlying fears that drive passive aggressive behavior and encourages listeners to seek assertiveness instead. Through engaging examples and listener interactions, the episode sheds light on how to navigate relationships affected by passive aggression.

Marital Arguments and Health October 2, 2007

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses the impact of marital arguments on health, particularly focusing on the differences between men and women. He explores the concept of self-silencing, where individuals suppress their feelings during conflicts, and how this can lead to serious health issues, especially for women. The discussion highlights the importance of expressing emotions and the potential dangers of unresolved anger. DeMille emphasizes that while arguments are a natural part of relationships, the way they are handled can significantly affect both emotional well-being and physical health. He encourages listeners to communicate openly and seek therapy if needed.

Exploring Sarcasm July 10, 2007

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele delves into the complex nature of sarcasm, examining its psychological implications and effects on relationships. He discusses how sarcasm can serve as a defense mechanism, reflecting anger and insecurity, while also highlighting its connection to intelligence. Through insights from recent neural research, DeMille explains how sarcasm operates in the brain and its potential to harm interpersonal connections. The episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own use of sarcasm and its impact on their lives and relationships.

Unwelcomed Feelings in Your Life January 2, 2007

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of unwelcomed feelings that many individuals experience, particularly at the start of a new year. He discusses various emotions such as frustration, anger, jealousy, and impatience, which people often wish to avoid. Through listener emails and personal anecdotes, Armand encourages listeners to acknowledge these feelings rather than suppress them. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the root causes of these emotions and offers insights on how to manage them effectively. The conversation highlights the significance of self-awareness and the impact of emotions on daily life.

Dealing with Difficult People September 13, 2006

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Roberta Maria Antti
Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele and Roberta Maria Antti explore the complexities of interacting with difficult individuals. They discuss various types of difficult people, including the angry, fearful, overly emotional, and passive-aggressive. The hosts emphasize the importance of recognizing both subjective and objective experiences when dealing with such individuals. They provide insights into understanding the underlying emotions that drive difficult behaviors and offer strategies for managing interactions effectively. By fostering self-awareness and empathy, listeners can navigate challenging relationships and improve their own emotional resilience.

Intermittent Explosive Disorder August 23, 2006

Host: Armand DiMeleGuests: Christine Ulrich, Kent Robinshaw
Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele discusses Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) with doctors Kent Robinshaw and Christine Ulrich. They explore the prevalence of IED, its symptoms, and the underlying causes, including biological and psychological factors. The conversation highlights the importance of recognizing anger triggers and the role of therapy in managing explosive behaviors. The hosts also discuss the societal implications of IED and the need for effective treatment options. Listeners are encouraged to seek help if they or someone they know struggles with anger management issues.

When Is It Time to Leave? July 6, 2006

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the complex question of when it’s time to leave various aspects of life, including relationships, jobs, and even friendships. He discusses the emotions tied to leaving, such as anger and dissatisfaction, and emphasizes the importance of recognizing these feelings. Through various examples, he encourages listeners to evaluate their situations and consider whether staying or leaving is the best choice. The episode also touches on the significance of communication and understanding in relationships, urging individuals to express their feelings rather than act on impulse.

Stealth Saboteur April 25, 2006

Host: Armand DiMele
Category: Emotional Intelligence and Communication

In this episode, Armand DiMele explores the concept of the ‘stealth saboteur,’ which he identifies as hidden anger that can undermine our well-being and relationships. Through various examples, he illustrates how unexpressed anger affects interactions with friends, clients, and even healthcare providers. Armand encourages listeners to confront their feelings and communicate openly about anger, both with themselves and others. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the underlying emotions that drive behaviors and the need for honest dialogue in relationships. The episode includes listener calls discussing personal experiences with anger and communication.